FUN QUESTION. How soon did you know he was the ONE?

As soon as he first emailed me and I emailed back (we met online). I kind of remember thinking, wow, wouldn't it be great if he turned out to be the one for me? I think within the first few exchanges I was hooked.

Same here, before we were dating. We had only just met and already he had become my best friend, my support during a really hard time.

@ Bre, wow that's how it was for me. I call him my angel, because he came at the right time, when I needed him the most!

It took me a while. When we met i was in a relationship with someone else, and that someone didn't treat me very well. My FS was there for me through out it all. He helped me through a really bad time, and all through that I just thought of him as a friend. Until we went for dinner together one night, after I had broken up with my bf at the time. FS said to me:

"I know you are not ready yet, but when you are, I'd really like to take you out on a date. I wanted to ask now so that I don't miss the boat". He practically stumbled his way through, and it was so darn cute.

I decided to push it a little further, and fish for a compliment. So I asked him, why he would like to take me on a date.

His response, after some thought:

"I want to get you to know you more, I like you a lot, because you are "Youthfully exuberant, and sensitively independent" I had to laugh, I mean who would come up with those 4 words strung together, but the words resonated with me. (cont)

It was then that I realized how close we'd come, and that I was interested in him being more than just friends.

1 week later we went on a date, and have been together ever since

I would make a distinction between how soon I thought she might be the one, and how soon I knew she was.

I had a crush on her, and thought she might be the one, even before we met. (We had been IMing and talking on the phone.) She then came to visit for a week and a half, so that we could decide whether we were compatible enough to have her come back here for a 6-month course she was planning to take. When she arrived, I was so stressed out by having to make a decision that fast that at one point, I curled up in bed and cried.

We did make the decision to have her come back for the 6-month training course (obviously). However, it was probably a couple of years before I knew she was the one. Having had a marriage that ended after about 20 years, and another relationship that lasted about three years, I was extremely cautious about making a long-term decision on a new relationship.

Caroline- thats almost exactly how me and FH started dating. He helped me through a rough time, made me realize that I didnt deserve to be treated the way that guy treated me. We became best friends. If we weren't together, we were either texting, or im'ing. Soon after i broke it off with the other guy, he asked my parents if they would mind if we started dating. I don't know exactly when it was that I knew i wanted to be with him forever, all i know is somewhere along our friendship and fighting, i fell in love with him, and I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.

This is such a tough question for me because I was in high school when we started dating and we've been together for 8 years. And we were friends for a year before we became a couple. I think that when you meet your SO in high school, you aren't thinking about if they are "the one", you are just thinking about how things are going to last through everything. I think that as our relationship has grown and matured, I've realized more in the last year or two how much he really is "the one." And, after doing marriage prep classes and therapy and all that, I'm even more in love with him and even more sure than I was before.