Fuming

I don't think it's appropriate for anyone to wear a low cut dress to someone else's wedding. But, if you approve of the dress and don't care, then I don't see a problem. However, if it bothers him that much and will upset his parents, and she did go and pick a dress that wasn't apart of your vast options, you guys have every right to make her get a new dress in my opinion.

Personally, I'd look at the dress first and see if the fabric and color really match. If they don't, then I would ask her to purchase a dress of the selection you provided.

If it wasnt a custom size dress, azazie does free returns

I agree with Melle - if it's still within the free return window, I would recommend asking her to return it and pick out a new dress (and maybe ask her to show the new dress to you and your fiance before she purchases it).

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Unfortunately, she lives in a different state so I wouldn't have the option to see it in advance. I can definitely recommend that my fiance ask her to send us the details about the color and fabric of the dress to confirm that it will match everyone else's dresses.

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My fiance didn't get those details from her. He was just so mad that she did this that he didn't think to ask. I can definitely tell him to ask.

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I will definitely have my fiance talk to her some more once he settles down.

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It is very low cut or at least from what the pictures show online. I haven't seen the dress on nor will I have the chance unless she sends us photos because she lives in another state. I truly thought we provided enough options for her to have liked and felt comfortable in one of the 15-20 options we provided.

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Even 10 options is more than enough in my opinion! Maybe she just misunderstood and thought she could pick any dress, since you said he told her "we were considering letting them pick their own dress" - but if you were clear that the options were the ones in the showroom, then it seems that she just didn't care and wanted to pick a different one. You definitely provided plenty of options for them!

It doesn't matter what her dress looks like...what matters is that you gave 20 options to choose from (which is very considerate to begin with) and she went behind your back and bought a different one without asking. If she didn't order a custom size, Azazie is luckily pretty good with returns and exchanges. I'd have your fiance talk to her and have her exchange the dress for an approved style in your showroom.

She bought this dress because she knew you were considering letting them choose their own dresses. She can keep the dress if she really likes it, but you don't have to let her wear it to your wedding.

Can she wear something over it? A pashmina or light shawl or something?

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It's a summer wedding so I think it would be way too warm. It would also look strange if she is the only one wearing one.

I get that you guys let them have the option to choose a dress but even still she should have ran it by the 2 of you first. I think if he is that upset about it then he needs to tell her and if it makes her upset oh well she should have ran it by you guys first before buying it. I don't think a low cut dress is inappropriate for bridesmaids as long as it's not to low cut. But if the bride and groom want long dresses then she needs to get a long dress.

I think it was bad judgment on her part. but unless its realllly bad I wouldnt make a big deal out of it. If anyone has issues with it, itll just make her look bad, not you. And besides no one will notice, they will only be paying attention to you

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Can you get a sample? That's one way to check. Although, she should not have made that decision before talking to you

Modesty panel. It's simple and covers her up. As long as otherwise it's fine. A modesty panel is justa triangle shape of fabric that is placed in the plunge to make it more modest