FSMIL...

So stop telling her stuff and don't stress over her. You don't have to deal with her if you don't want too. Leave that to FH.

I personally would be thankful she is not coming! I have an aunt who I refer to as "Aunt Bitch" who had a fit when she found out I got married in dad's hospital room. Well he passed 5 days later! I invited her to wedding and shower out of obligation of doing the right thing, not because I wanted to. She as RSVP'd no to shower,and I am hoping its the same for wedding. I would not want her around anymore than I have to if I was you. She is toxic.

It is never easy dealing with in-laws, especially step in-laws. My FH parents are divorced too, both remarried and my FSMIL is a horrible person. She stirs drama constantly, has no problem talking about you behind your back to whomever will listen and drags FFIL along with her. Lucky for me, she has not been involved in any wedding planning, in fact, neither her, nor FFIL have even congratulated us on the engagement. They will get an invite in the mail and it doesn't even matter to me if they show up.

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about what she says or thinks. It is not her wedding, even if she was contributing financially and she has no say. Next time she gives you her opinion just say thanks I will take that into consideration. Fake people, will always be fake, don't try to make them happy, it never works.

Ugh I dont understand how if shes not contributing financially, she thinks she has a say! Or really a say regardless, its not her wedding!

Just stop telling her stuff!! I can't stand my FMIL so I just don't tell her anything about the wedding planning if I can help it.

I don't talk to the lady ever! Either my fiancé tells her or my FSIL does. I found out she called the reception venue recently to get information!!! Who does that!

I'm happy she isn't coming and offended at the same time.

My favorite... My BMs all got to pick out their own dresses aslong as they were the same fabric, color, and length. My FSIL told her she got her dress and told her that everyone got to pick their own. I was sitting right there and she goes "That's absolutely hideous, I would be so embarrassed" Seriously?!? It's MY decision why do you care!! I purposely wanted to get her a pin corsage cause she apparently made a scene at my FSILs wedding because she had a wrist corsage which she thought was "tacky" but we ended up getting all wrist corsages.

The worst part is she drags FFIL with her. He agrees with whatever she says regardless if it hurts his kids.