FSIL

I have a FBIL I can't stand. And he lives with us! We fight about him almost daily and we used to never fight. It sucks but we just asked him to leave so we shall see! Hopefully it gets better but he's being an a hole about it. Be happy she doesn't live with you because it's way worse!

I don't have in laws I can't stand but I definitely have in laws that put tension on us (and so does my fiancé). It's a little frustrating but remember that you guys are going to be each other's new, most important family unit. Spouses first, then extended family. It sounds kinda bitchy but its true.

No, you're not alone lol. My husband's SiL is literally crazy so needless to say I'm not her biggest fan.

My FSIL can be ok, but she was a real pill at my shower. she has temper tantrums when she has to do something that she doesn't want to do. so yes, its really hard for me to want to like her

Mine is quite a special gem. The first time I met the family she started to talk about her wedding. It's been 3yrs since I met them and she's still talking about it (she's been married for 7yrs). Now that I'm getting married its gotten worse. She reminds me that she didn't interview her vendors and she had a PERFECT wedding. Her mom even told me no one's wedding will ever compare to hers. They even went as far as telling me to have my FH work overtime so that we can spend more on the wedding. I LOVE my FH he doesn't care about impressing others but, my in-laws are so weird.

My FSIL doesn't know me, she apparently "really liked me" at first but I don't see how that's possible since she's never tried to get to know me! When FH and I first got engaged she told me she wanted to help with wedding planning, I was super excited I thought it would be a perfect chance for us to get to know each other. FH couldn't go look at venues with me so she asked if she could go, the day of venue shopping I txted her 3 times and she ignored me! (Keep in mind we talked the night before and she still wanted to go) it was never brought up on why she ignored me and I just let it go. Dress shopping day came and once again the night before she told me she wanted to go but morning of she ignored my txts. No explination. When I finally bought my dress I sent her a picture via facebook, it showed she read the message but it took her 3 weeks to respond with "oh that's so cute sorry I'm just seeing this, the new facebook messenger is confusing", I just bit my tounge but that was my breaking point. FH and I live 3 hours from her and almost everytime were in town we have plans to go see her and unless he's by himself there's always a last minute reason as to why we can't come over, she usually has her husband tell us she's asleep. Her and her husband struggle financially because she refuses to work, she claims she's too sick to work. She has been "diagnosed" with everything you can imagine. When the problem is she's 5'1 and over 300lbs. She just had gastric bypass. It's now completely out in the open that we don't care for each other so we went months with out even saying hello. I posted a facebook post one night as a joke about why FH and I aren't moving back to our hometown and she, the girl whom hadn't even said hello to me in 6 months, proceeds to write me this lengthy Facebook message about how I shouldn't of posted the post and how I needed to watch what I put out on facebook and how i need to be more careful about things. I lost it after this message, it was a very lengthy message from someone who doesn't know me or who we are as a couple. I showed FH and he defended her actions. I responded with exactly what I thought and then just blocked her. FH tells me I need to get rid of the chip off my shoulder or our marriage isn't going to work out. The chip is on both of our shoulders but in his eyes im the problem. It's so frustrating.

ME ME ME! Your significant other has had their whole lives to get used to the level of crazy their siblings are on, while you have not. I actually like my SIL, but she causes a lot of drama, and even chose our wedding night as a good time to have an outburst. Luckily, no one noticed.

Eventually your FH has to recognize that you are the new family, and the two of you should be on the same side. My DH and I are just starting to get there, but it took a lot of arguing over his crazy sister for me to show that i love her, but I need to be able to talk to him about anything without there being this idea that I'm disrespecting his family.

I am definitely in this boat- but with my FMIL.. she is completely unstable and runs FFIL completely ragged. It really sucks because I have to watch FH try to deal with her and reign in her craziness but there's not a whole lot else I can do but be there for him..... it does suck that we've got crazies!

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My SIL completely ignores me, like no Hi, Bye , F You nothing. I have had 1 yes 1 decent conversation with her in 5 years. It was about work, since we both are nurses. She did not even come the wedding to see her daughter as a JBM, thanks to MIL for paying for her dress and doing the work to make it happen.

Yes my FSIL (the women my brother is about to marry). No one in the family (immediate or extended) likes her, and it's not because we are being difficult (we are a very welcoming family)... she is just generally a terrible person. She is rude, has no regard for other people, has no respect for other people's homes or property. She puts down everyone around her, she is generally a very negative person, hates family gatherings, & hates that my brother is so close with his family. She has never tried to get to know any of us (not really; not beyond the surface) even though we have tried. She is catty and super fake; she pretends to be everyone's best friend but as soon as their back is turned she says terrible things about them.

None of us understand why he is marrying her, and most people in the family have tried having private (and respectful) discussions with him about this, but it doesn't matter. He's doing it any way.... in 23 days. I try not to think about it too much, because it's just upsetting.

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@MrsZ that is a great thought to remember! FH husband has had his whole life to adjust to his sister, it's just gonna take me time.

We were at a graduation reception for FBIL and FSIL told me she had a gift for me. I turn around and she's holding a piece of paper with a live spider on it out towards me. I'm not deathly afraid of spiders or anything, but what 20-something year old pulls shit like that? I just rolled my eyes and turned around.

Lucky for me she's not coming to the wedding, but FH is really upset. She made their mom drive her to the airport at 3am on Christmas morning so she could fly across the country for a friend's wedding, but she can't make it to her own brother's?

Oh and yesterday she sent FH a bottle of booze for his b-day. FH doesn't drink, which he's told her on multiple occasions. He texted her "thanks for the booze, but I don't drink." She responds, "Oh no worries, your guests will love it when you serve it!" Facepalm.

My FILs are awesome. So I'm considering myself lucky in that department. His parents and extended family have always treated me very well. I've only met his younger sister once in the 3+ years we've been together and we're friends on FB, but we aren't close because they live 2 states away, which is too bad.

It's his sister, there's going to be problems. my baby brother isn't married and I've never met his girlfriend (due to distance)of apparently 8 years (on and off from what I hear)

if the day came that he actually married her, I would do all I could to be nice, but there's no way any woman is going to be good enough for him. . he's my treasure and that's it.

not logical, but the truth.

but I do think that if your FH is defending her actions, maybe you should take a closer look at your own actions. I don't know what the joke was that you put on facebook as to why you aren't moving to the home town, but maybe it was something that shouldn't have been put on facebook. no matter what her weight is, she may have a lot of health problems that you don't understand, and it does sound like she's trying to get her weight under control. as for the facebook claiming she read something three weeks ago, IDK if that's a problem with facebook programs, but that happens all the time. it claims something was read and the person may not have actually read it. so I wouldn't hold that against her.

I think that maybe you need to back off a bit, give her some room for now. she's just had surgery and it could be a while before things can be better between you. you're got a wedding and she has a lot in her life. sometimes you just need to hit the pause button, but things on a shelf and give it some time.

Aww that really sucks that she's like that. My FSIL is amazing. She goes out of her way to make things special for everyone in the family. She has gone above and beyond with helping with the wedding, without even being asked. She's my favorite person in FH's family.

Here's the first of my encounters with my peach of a FSIL:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/kwr-fsil-drama-may-just-kill-her-rant/5e149748efdcd2f4.html

And that's just the tip of the iceberg, she has the mentality of a teenage girl and acts like the world should revolve around her. I tried to make nice with her and the only response I got was "Okay" and nothing else. When she returned to Illinois, she talked to FW's ex and started drama where there was none. FW hadn't been with said ex in just over 5 years yet FSIL gave said ex my phone number. For what reason, I have no clue because all the ex said was something about FW doing a tattoo cover up of her name. I shut it down and that was that.

FSIL by the way is now in the process of deciding if she wants to move down here and will be here to visit some time next. I hope round 2 goes better than round 1.

No you're not alone, but maybe alone that you are fighting with FH because of it? Does he not know she's crazy?