Hey guys!
So... I'm paying for all of my Bridesmaids' stuff. Their dresses, their alterations, accessories if necessary (although I've been sock-piling a ton of super cute, and different jewelry). I wanted to do this, and am totally for it because after about six months of trying to compile their opinions so that they wouldn't resent me for asking them to buy an "atrocious" dress, I would 100% rather foot the bill, period. Anyway, I asked each of my bridesmaids to take their measurements and send them to me. My two mains got back to me right away, and my FH's sister took about 3 weeks. Well they obviously didn't even do that because, so far, 2/3 of the dresses are totally off. But thats okay! I've been in situations where I couldn't be bothered to accurately measure myself. That's not the biggest issue, I thought, I can just exchange them!
My main thing is that my FH sister, who is one of my bridesmaids (17yo) was here for TWO WEEKS before the deadline to return the dresses (if they didn't fit) approached. Like, here, in our home. We were working, so I didn't see her a whole lot, but I talked to her in person, texted her, snapped her the entire time attempting to get her to try on this dang dress, haha. In person, she seemed very uncomfortable and would say "oh I'm tired," and then I would see her making pasta like two hours later. Over text or social media- she literally would not respond at all.
Well, I've finally gotten her to agree to try the dress on (past the deadline) this coming Tuesday and OMG if she backs out on me I don't know what I'm going to do. We're driving an hour and a half just so that she can try it on and she's so wishy washy that I literally have started getting nervous sweats even thinking about including her- because from every angle it seems to me like she absolutely hates it all and doesn't want to be a bridesmaid. In the beginning, it wasn't like this at all, but maybe 2 years of waiting for a wedding has left her bored? Maybe it's just her age? I made sure to at least get a "I'd wear that," from everyone individually before ordering them?
I don't know, it's just kind of exhausting. After five years his mother is just starting to treat me like I'm an adult; and now I can't even get his younger sister to turn my way. Coming from a family of only-girls (only sisters, girl cousins, aunts, etc.) who were always very outspoken and comfortable with each other, this is so odd for me. It's like culture shock and it reminds me of high school
Did anyone else have issues with younger bridesmaids? In addition, she's made it clear that she doesn't want to go to the combined nature-themed bachelor/bachelorette party because we'll "get too crazy." *audible gasp*
Thanks for reading my ramblings, please let me know how you guys would handle the situation!
Aubrianna Abbema