Frustrated.. just frustrated need to rant, please rant with me!

I understand! When you're the bride you ar typically super on top of things but as guests, a lot of people aren't like that and seem to think they can respond when they want. But, at the end of the day you sent the info accordingly and you're right, you cannot babysit.

I had these same frustrations, and it all worked out. It always works out. Try not to worry about other people in these weeks leading up to the wedding. When its over this won't matter!

This is me right now! I decided *long* ago (like a few months back) that it was not my job to make sure people booked hotel rooms. We are also fortunate to be having our reception in an area with lots of hotels, but that's besides the point - it isn't my job.
I've received about half of my RSVPs back (I think?) with 12 days to the deadline. Some of the RSVPs I'm waiting on are from people who expressed tons of interest in coming, but have gone radio silent since I sent invitations out a month ago (hello, please tell me if you're coming and/or bringing a date!). So looking forward to all of those phone calls and texts.
A few people RSVP'ed to *me* for the bridal shower last month, even though the invite said to respond to my sister by text, phone, or e-mail. I guess e-mailing someone you don't know is scary?
It will all work out

You're not crazy! There's a bunch of stuff going on surrounding your wedding. It's going to be okay though! Hang in there

I understand, I had the same stress. I basically just forgot about it and let everyone deal with it. If someone asked about the hotel after it closed, I told them they could book a normal room but the block had closed as we mentioned on our save the date, invite and website. People will figure it out, don't worry!

I wouldn't stress that's on them. I was you less than a week ago and as of Sunday I let it go. If they did not book rooms than they can find another hotel to stay at. My rooms has been blocked for over a year and those that didn't Oh well 🤷🏾. As far as RSVPs I did mine backwards so I won't have that stress, it's on them. Ppl kill me being inconsiderate and if it was them they would be highly

I get it. I am super stressed and it doesn't help that the hotel is completely booked. So once the room block is removed anyone who hasn't booked is pretty much up a creek. UGH!

I won't lie, I am type A, and definitely the "mom" of my group... I also have a really good relationship with all the wedding party - so me texting them directly isn't weird.

I really appreciate the vent fest! Lol.

I love my MOH and shes so caring but recently shes had a bad run of luck and I'm not able to have a bachelorette party. I'm not mad at her but I'm disappointed, especially since my FH has his Bachelor party this weekend. Luckily, my cousin (and bridesmaid) is making a cake and we are having a mini spa night the night before the wedding. Just me and the bridal party.

Not to add to your stress, but are you sure the Best Man/Flower Girl and Reader realize that the Friday rehearsal is a requirement? Maybe they aren't booking a room because they don't plan on driving up and back Friday and Saturday, but just Saturday, and skipping the rehearsal.

Just asking because that is a lot of driving! I'd be booking a room or staying home.

You are defiantly not crazy hun. My maid of honor has done so much planning and my other bridesmaids are hardly responding...we are both frustrated! We just have to understand that people have busy lives, and will spend their money when and how they want it. They will be there and everything will fall into place, you just focus on YOU & YOUR FH, this is your special day!

View Quoted Comment That was my thought too. It is extremely unusual to have the rehearsal where the wedding is, the night before, unless the wedding is hundreds of miles away, and everyone is staying multi-days. People in WP will usually skip traveling an hour or more for a 30 rehearsal that most people don't need anyway, if they do not want to stay overnight. They simply arrive wedding day a half hour before pre-ceremony pictures, or the wedding itself. Really, as long as the couple has gone over things with the officiant or clergy, and usually the music person, the rest of the people who do not attend the rehearsal get filled in in 5-10 minutes, the morning of the wedding. It is so simple. I've been in a couple dozen weddings with no actual rehearsal, except people talked to just before the ceremony. And no one ever did anything wrong. No rehearsal at either of my weddings. So, maybe folks have no room because they are arriving wedding day. So much easier for most people to get groomed and dressed at home, if under 2 hours. Relax, they will work it out .
It won't matter if some people skip rehearsal, as long as you are there. Especially a reader. Since they do not read their piece at rehearsal, usually, they don't go. Unless your venue has 6 aisles and 4 alters, it is pretty much guaranteed, people with start at the entry and get to the altar. So relax. It will come together. Work schedules for many do not officially approved time off, until less than 4 weeks out. Then, a bunch will RSVP, and the others, coordinator will call.
You are stressing yourself out. All these things are normal. Though if you did not realize many people do not either travel long or stay overnight, just for something under an hour like a rehearsal, maybe that is a surprise to you. Some usually skip rehearsals. But the rest is all fine. 🤗 Just 5 weeks, and you will be married, and wonder what the heck you were so worried about. People manage to get their own lodgings for their own vacations, why worry they can't do it for a wedding?

I say take a chill pill !!!!!!!!!!

You can not control other people or expect other people to be like you! Although I agree with you I send rsvps back prompt not everyone is the same. Relax and dont stress whoever wants to be there will be there with or without a hotel booking. Maybe they decided its cheaper to drive not your call to make because finances could be an issue, they just dont see the point in staying in hotel, or they have last minute things to do sat morning early we never know but I would say Relax you should be celebrating your new future not stressing.

I understand this! Hardly anyone booked a room in our hotel block (which was available for almost a year) and then got annoyed when they couldn't book a room the week of the wedding. And as for RSVPing, I had to contact over 100 that apparently didn't think it was necessary to RSVP. But at least you have a coordinator to do this for you! And good luck with everything else!