Frustrated about rude ring comments

I actually Googled the average diamond weight of an engagement ring in the USA because your post was so absurd and it looks like average is about 1.08 to 1.2 carats. I don't think that anyone should be shamed of their choice of engagement ring, but most people are well aware that wearing a huge flashy ring is going to warrant feedback. It's unfortunate that your dad doesn't like your ring, but the good thing is, you're not marrying him. Confronting him isn't going to get you anywhere.

Uhhhh same train of thought as you... lol

I agree with PP's, I don't know of anyone with 3-5 carats, let alone that being the norm. 2.5 is huge to me, but there's nothing wrong with that. That being said, you can expect people to think your ring is fake if it's that big/flashy. Mine is only 1 carat and my mom and sister asked me if it was fake.

I was thinking the same but to each their own and as long as the person wearing the ring is happy with it, so be it.

Yes, to all of this! You love it, so be confident in your choice and ignore any negative comments. You can't change people. What could possibly be the purpose of "confront[ing] him in a more aggressive manner"??

Also, since you don't like your dad's taste and he doesn't appear to like yours, be aware that there may be a repeat of this conversation throughout your wedding planning. You will be doing yourself a huge favor if you can learn to let this sort of thing go (and plan to not share any more details with him than he needs to know).

Not true about the carat #. The typical carat for the center diamond in an engagement ring is 0.9 carats, or at least it was when I got my ring. Not saying that's what my ring is, I'm just saying that was the standard size. I have several friends with very large rings but I can't imagine telling them it looks fake. And even if it is fake, WHO CARES. I just wouldn't talk about anything wedding related with your father going forward.

I don't think you should necessarily expect negative feedback about your ring specifically (your Dad was one case where you probably should have expected it, based on his past behavior).

But I do think it's good advice to assume you will get all sorts of opinions about wedding-related stuff and to just ignore any negativity (unless it's from someone whose opinion you trust and they are trying to get you to reconsider an unwise plan). The best way to avoid unwanted opinions is to be very careful who you share wedding details with and keep the sharing to a minimum.

And yet, humans love to give unsolicited advice, so receiving it and learning to let it roll off your back is just part of life.