Friendship

She could be jealous, feel like you were a 'fake friend,' or a myriad of other things. Until she tells you, you are really just guessing.
I also feel like there's a lot missing here to really give advice. Your description sounds like you're closer to being 'office buddies' than everyday friends (i.e. being friends outside of work). Why was she over other colleagues invited? Usually I suggest only inviting co-workers if you're friends that just happen to work together; not friendly coworkers.
Would you consider them equally close to you? Why was the one bridesmaid asked 3 days before?

I'm sorry you're having to go through this! It's possible she felt hurt about not being in your BP. Either way, she should have talked to you about it bothering her, not ghosting you like a child. At this point, I would try to let this go. You've done your best!

I am sorry that that happened to you. Hopefully with some time she will stop feeling some type of way and at least things can go back to being not ackward.

Hey Thelma! Congratulations on your marriage! I hope you had a wonderful wedding day!

I’m sorry that you are going through this with your friend.

It sounds like perhaps she may be upset that she wasn’t asked to be in your bridal party but asked your other friend.

I think what would be best is to try and have a conversation with her about what is bothering her and mention that you didn’t mean to upset her or make here feel bad.

I don’t think her not attending was ok, but I think you set yourself up for potential drama when three days before your wedding you decided one of your two invited co-workers was important enough to stand by your side on one of the most special days of your life.

View Quoted Comment

This is my thought. She must have felt that you were not actually friends then if you picked only one of the 2 to be in your bridal party you suddenly had.

She sounds like she probably was jealous. It is rude of her to just not attend though without notice and for her to just end a friendship like that.

I feel soo bad , it was never my intentions to hurt her. I was only gonna have 1 maid of honor and The B starting tripping that she wanted to choose who was gonna get invited and trying to control me. So i said UHhhmmm NO. i lost the friendship of 13 years. But my coworker Jeannette shes has help me soooo much planning and doing so much for me. SHe didnt had to and she did. So i asked my sister from texas n her GF and my co worker 3 days before, everything happened so quick. I never thought this would upset her so much. It's not like i didnt invite her to the wedding.

After two months of being Married i asked her again, why she didn't attended my wedding? she still tell me i don't want to talk about it. i have little bit of hate and resentment . Bad thing about it we work together next to each other and its hard for me.