Friends engaged

When she gets married is completely her business. There is no reason she would need to run her date by you unless you guys are really good friends and plan on being in each other's weddings and have a lot of overlapping guests.

I agree with Veronica. Since this is a classmate, I'm assuming, aside from a few shared friends, there will also be very little overlap in guest list, so it won't really impact very many people.

If it is a friend, the only real rule of etiquette that should ideally be followed is that they not plan for their wedding to take place on the same day as yours. Otherwise, your wedding does not ‘block out’ surrounding dates. I can understand if you’re feeling a bit peeved but your friend has done nothing wrong.

It would be a courtesy if you are close, but she clearly didn't care enough. Definitely no etiquette behind it, she can plan her wedding on whatever day she wants

Unless she's close i wouldn't worry about it. Also she'd be lucky to get a Saturday in the fall this late in the game. Many of our vendors were booked all Saturdays in October so we moved to a Friday.

I'm not trying to sound harsh so I'm sorry if it comes out that way, but it's really not your business on the date she chooses to get married on. And as long as she isn't having it the day of your wedding with mutual guests/wedding party attending or you guys aren't close enough to be in each other's wedding then there is no kind of etiquette rule that states she needs to run her wedding date by you. She's a bride just like you and deserves to have her special day the way she wants just like you.

View Quoted Comment Maybe she didn't care enough because they aren't close enough of friends to make her feel like she was expected to run her date by her.

Um unless she's in tour wedding then I don't see the issue.

Have to agree with the others- she didn’t do anything wrong. Are you guys close? Just classmates?

Do y’all share any of the same guests?! I wouldn’t be too upset by it unless you have a bunch of the same guests and you plan on hosting all weekend. Are y’all close friends?

If she's just a classmate, and you both aren't close and won't share a large amount of guests, then I wouldn't worry about it. Although we'd love it if our wedding 'blocked out' an entire weekend...it doesn't. So her having her wedding the day after yours shouldn't be an issue.

There is no etiquette regarding when people are allowed to get married. Whatever date the couple chooses is up to them. If she is just your classmate, and not a close friend, I don’t see the issue.

I think your making a big deal out of this. She doesn't have to run her date by you unless she's a really good friend and is in your wedding, just accept it and move on planning your wedding

It is not your choice what works for your friends.

What works best for them, works best for them--not you. Remember not everyone's life revolves around you and your wedding and timelines.

View Quoted Comment 👆 This. Perfectly said.

View Quoted Comment Cassidy you said it perfectly.


Sometimes I feel brides feel like the world should stop because they are getting married. And any conversations you have has to be about the wedding. Anybody around them regardless of their relationship with them must ask permission to have their own wedding. When in reality nobody will ever be that invested in anyone elses wedding.