Friends engaged at the same time

Ignore her. She gets a day. You get a day.

But first: I'm impressed you got all that done in four days. What's your secret?! Do tell!

You get one day and she gets one day. I definitely don't think two months is as close together as she thinks. My cousin and I, unknowingly, planned our weddings two weeks apart and everything was perfectly fine between us. I think your friend is being a bit dramatic. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. But congrats on your engagement and major props to you for getting all of that booked in four days!

That's stupid. My one bridesmaid got married in July, I got married in December, another bridesmaids getting married in May and my MOH is getting engaged any day now and will probably also get married next summer. DH also has a cousin who was engaged before us and is getting married after us in June 2017. When you are of a certain age and have lots of friends of that age and in relationships, wedding planning will overlap. It should be fun, you can compare notes and vent to each other about stress. If she doesn't see that, then just don't talk to her about your wedding. If she chooses to elope or move her wedding up, that's her choice and has nothing to do with you. Sounds like she is being very petty. Try to ignore it.

Not sure! Haha! I knew what I wanted and I'm a born planner! I've also been wanting this for a long time and finally it happened!

Did you set your date the same as hers? I'm confused why she is so upset. I don't know what the "appropriate" etiquette is but I would not be mad at my friend for getting married before me... You should sit her down and be straight with her. Let her know that just because you are now engaged and wedding planning, does not mean you are going to start ignoring her or celebrating her engagement with her too. Find out what her real concerns are. Is it that she is afraid you are going to back out of being in the wedding party? Is it that she doesn't understand that as a member of the wedding party you are only required to show up to the wedding on time and in appropriate attire?

If it were me, however, I would re-evaluate if she is actually a good friend.

That really sucks, if that was me I'd be excited to have a close engaged friend that I could talk to about wedding stuff without feeling like I'm being annoying! She's missing out on how awesome an experience this could be to go through together.

Although she shouldn't be upset, I can understand her feeling a little hurt that your wedding is coming up first.

Sit her down and tell her how excited you are for her wedding and you still want to help her plan; that your wedding is not going to take away from hers.

My FSIL is getting married the same year we are. She's fine with it. Just talk to her and see what's up.

Your friend sounds like a brat. Ignore it.

Is she being silly? Yes. But her feelings are hurt and if I had to guess it probably feels to her like you won't be there for her to support her during her time. I would just be open about it and say "it seems like you're upset my wedding is before yours" Then some variation of asking what it is that bothers her and that you will still be there for her. It's easy to be annoyed but try to remember that her feelings are just hurt and she's probably not realizing how it's coming off

As much as we say everyone gets their day, people still get their feelings hurt and some feel jealous. This is going on in my own family right now. It's not fun!

See she has been engaged for two years now and just started planning September 2016. I've tried to talk to her but I'm not one for confrontation so that makes it a little awkward for me. She however won't answer me anymore at this point. I just want to make sure I know I was right, I didn't do anything wrong by setting my date before hers. Its just a sucky situation and I don't understand it. Heck it could also be cause my family has paid a lot and she doesn't have a family. So I don't know if that plays into it either.

She's being a brat. Rise above it and hopefully she'll realize she only gets one day.

I got engaged at the very end of October, and my BFF got engaged in November, after us. She knew I was planning my wedding for roughly October of 2016, so she decided to plan hers for June of 2016 because we would both have to travel and save up for each other's and she was in a rush to get married sooner rather than later.

It was FUN planning both at the same time! Her fiance asked one time if it upset me that they were getting married first even though I got engaged first. Really sweet of him but uhm, NOPE. Had they planned their wedding for the same month I would have been a bit hurt (because no way could we have attended each other's weddings if they were that close) but as to who gets married first, who cares?

Just be the bigger person and let her know you really want to support her and you hope she supports you.

You didn't do anything wrong. Like others have said, she's probably just upset that you're getting married first even though you got engaged after. However, there is nothing wrong with that.

I'm friends with a group of 15 people that all grew up together. Out of that group there are 4 couples, FH and I have been together the longest by far, but we were 2nd in the group to get engaged, and will be the 3rd couple to get married and there's nothing wrong with that. All four of the couples have gotten/will get married between last November and this coming May which was not planned. Most of us are in each other's wedding parties and we have had no problems. We are all happy for each other. Just be open and talk to her and if she's really a good friend then she should be open to talking about it with you.

I would ignore it. You each get one day. I have multiple weddings to attend this year besides my own and im not worried about it one bit

ETA: This year ..not next --cant believe its 2017 already!

Thank you everyone for all the support. It was starting to make it not as fun to plan mine (even though thankfully I have just about everything done!) hopefully she gets over it and realizes that it's not that big of a deal.

Maybe I'm biased because FSIL is acting some sort of way about us getting married a full 6 months after them but my best friend and BM just got engaged on Christmas and asked me to be her MOH and I couldn't be happier. I am not worried about her trying to "fight for attention" or "being too busy". Your friend can't expect everyone to put their lives on hold for her 3 year engagement. Any friend that can't be happy for you getting engaged isn't really a friend.

Yeah that doesn't sound like a very good friend to me. I'm getting married March 19th and my best friend is getting married on May 5th, and her first thought was that she was worried she was stealing my thunder. I think it's awesome that my best friend and I are getting married so close together, I'd love to be able to plan stuff with her but we live in different countries right now so we've only been able to chat about it. Just ignore her comments, your planning shouldn't have anything to do with her planning, and if that's the way she feels then let her feel that way, she's only spoiling it for herself by being preoccupied with what you're doing.

My wedding is a week before yours, and one of my bridesmaids is getting married early September. I'm in her wedding as well. It's been a non-issue. In fact, she likes it as I've already done so much research on various wedding topics, she can just ask me for advice!