Friends / Bridesmaid gifts

To be honest, if you want them to use whatever gift after the wedding, I wouldn't engrave any of them with their role. They are far less likely to use a tumbler or tote bag or anything if it has "bridesmaid" written on it. This would also solve the issue of what role to assign her.

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True , didn't think of it like that.. I guess was thinking more of that day vs something they could use in the future.

I agree with Hannah! Getting them monogramed with their initials or name is fine, but I would stay away from wedding titles, that way they can wear/use it long after the wedding is over!

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I agree with all of this. I wouldn't ever TELL a bride that I didn't want a gift with "bridesmaid" on it, but I definitely wouldn't want or keep one if I did receive it. I also don't think you need to invent a role to give this helpful person. Just appreciate her helpfulness and treasure her as a friend outside of the context of your wedding.

Agreed. My sister bought us robes which say 'bridesmaid' on the back, and the robe itself is so lovely, but it's weird to wear after the day with that written on it. I've bought them robes, but with no titles on the back so they can potentially wear them again. Any gift should just have a name on it, not a title if the intention is that it can be used afterwards.

So, to answer your question about your friend, if you leave the titles off for everyone, getting her a little gift (if she's getting ready with you, for example) will be loads easier.

Things that are not gifts: anything you want them to wear/use at the wedding including but not limited to robes, pjs, all jewelry, hair/makeup, dress, shoes, proposal boxes, flasks, watches, cuff links, tumblers, shaving kits, bath/beauty items, gift cards, candles. Anything embroidered/engraved with names/titles


Things that are gifts: whatever you would buy for their birthday based on their individual interests. What are each of them into?
Guests do not need or want roles. People helping out do so from the goodness of their hearts.

View Quoted Comment Wait why don't you consider beauty items, gift cards, candles, flasks and watches gifts? As long as nothing is engraved, those are all items that they can all use again and don't necessarily have anything to do with the wedding/getting ready. My friends would all love to receive those things for their birthdays/Christmas.

View Quoted Comment I think it's a cute idea. And as long as you only plan on them using it the day of and aren't worried if they use it every again. You can do wine glasses, coffee cup, tumbler, makeup bag, mirror. They don't have to be engraved with a specific role but they can have it say something like how much you appreciate this person.