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Just Said Yes April 2027

Friends & Boyfriends

Janina, on May 24, 2019 at 7:29 PM Posted in Planning 0 9

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So I have a bunch of friends on my guest list that I have known my whole life (or at least the majority of my life) - these girls are my tribe! We grew up together, went to summer camps together, and did a lot together ... up until we all finished college and have since been less involved in each others lives. Regardless, these girls are all invited to my wedding. My issue/concern is that a few of them have boyfriends who I have never met, do not know their name, and they do not live together. These friends hardly mention them when we are all hanging out, so my gut reaction is not to invite them. I'm trying to be mindful of my portion of the guest list. So do I extend a "plus one" to these friends or go with my gut?

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Latest activity by Fmv, on May 25, 2019 at 6:11 PM

Champion June 2019
Gen · on May 24, 2019 at 7:33 PM
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Since your wedding isn't for a while, I'd wait until you are sending invitations to make this decision. Odds are by then, they will either be broken up or be really serious if they are still together. You don't need to include plus ones on save the dates, so just make the save the date out to them. If they're still with their boyfriends by the time of the wedding, include them on the invitation.
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Kelly · on May 24, 2019 at 7:38 PM
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Boyfriends aren’t considered plus ones. Plus ones are for single people. If they are still together when invitations go out next year then the invite should be addressed to the couple.
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Devoted June 2019
kelsey · on May 24, 2019 at 8:31 PM
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I only gave people the plus ones if it was a serious relationship, and everyone understood that. However we are having a very small intimate wedding so it was easy to explain to our friends and family that there are people we would much rather invite than have a random date/plus one who were have either never met, or don't know personally there.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on May 24, 2019 at 9:21 PM
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They don’t get a plus one, plus ones are for single guests. They’re in relationships and should be invited, by name, with their significant others.
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Just Said Yes April 2027
Janina · on May 24, 2019 at 10:22 PM
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Thanks Gen! This is the best advice I've received so far.
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Wendy · on May 24, 2019 at 11:53 PM
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I agree with this!!! I’m giving everyone a plus one, even those who only have a bf/gf that I’ve never met.. I wouldn’t go to a wedding alone..
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VIP September 2019
Melissa · on May 25, 2019 at 3:28 PM
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I would wait to see their situation closer to the wedding and when it’s time to address invites just message them something like “hey I want to make sure his name is spelled right” to get the name. I have a few I need to do this for
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Dedicated November 2019
Yasmine · on May 25, 2019 at 4:19 PM
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You should definitely invite their SOs, yes.
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Super October 2020
Fmv · on May 25, 2019 at 6:11 PM
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I would personally wait till it gets closer to send out save the dates or invites.
Some posters on here are very adimant that you have to invite guests significant others.
Etiquette is out of dates, and in my opinion i am spend so much money on our wedding that i feel i should be able to choose who is invited to our own wedding
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