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Friend + Who?

Mandi, on December 23, 2019 at 10:01 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

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So we have a friend who is in our friend group and being invited to the wedding. But I have no idea how to address her invitation.
She and her SO have been together for 2 years. But they have recently been on/off. Her social media is basically scrubbed of him, while his still has a photo of them and is listed as being in a relationship with her. (But I somewhat attribute this to men on their 30s neglecting their social media.)
Obviously she is still invited to the wedding. And more than welcome to bring him, a different guy, a friend, the cashier from the liquor store, whoever makes her happy.
But do I and guest her to make sure it's clear she gets a guest? Is and guesting her rude if I can't figure out if they are on or off?
I'm overthinking but halp!

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Latest activity by Emily, on December 26, 2019 at 1:37 PM

Master November 2020
Kristen · on December 23, 2019 at 11:01 PM
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Just ask if she is having a plus one or say that 2 seats are reserved for her.
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Caytlyn · on December 23, 2019 at 11:10 PM
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I would just address it to Friend and Guest. Maybe not the best etiquette wise, but it’s not your fault her relationship is unstable.
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VIP October 2020
Ingrid · on December 24, 2019 at 12:52 AM
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Address it to her plus 1.
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Rachel · on December 24, 2019 at 8:08 AM
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Just call or go see her to check in on life. Naturally one of the things that might come up is her relationship status. If not, ask her more directly and explain you want to address the invite properly. I’m sure she’d rather you just ask than receive an invite addressed in a way that might offend her or bring up bad memories.
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Jennifer · on December 24, 2019 at 9:23 AM
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"and Guest" is always the best route to go when in doubt! If they are back together, she will let you know!
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kymarmck · on December 24, 2019 at 10:06 AM
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In situations where we either don't know the SO or if they are not together at time of STD or Invitation sending, we are just going to say "Name & Guest"! When you send out invites, if they're for sure together at the time of sending them out, you could address it to "Friend & SO Name" as well I would think!
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Megan · on December 24, 2019 at 3:40 PM
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I'd definitely reach out to her and ask her.
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Emily · on December 26, 2019 at 1:37 PM
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& guest is the polite way to address the invitation if you don't know if they are on or off. She will let you know if they are together or not. But you don't want to make it awkward by putting his name on there if they are not together and she then has to awkwardly ask you if it's okay for her to bring someone else. I would play it safe and say Friend & Guest
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