Friend who I wish I had asked to be a bridesmaid- what to do?

We only have 1 person who is not family in our bridal party, and her and I have been best friends since we were about 3 or 4 (we're 27 now). I have another good friend that I have been friends with since we were about 13, I didn't ask her because I know she hates being in weddings and she has had a million the past couple years, and because I was trying to keep it just family. I asked her to do a reading and she was really happy I asked her.

Just invite her to some of those events? I invited people to my bachelorette party that weren't in the bridal party.

Yeah, if she's a close friend, make sure to invite her to all the fun events - rehearsal dinner, shower, bachelorette party.

If you can swing it, I'd ask her honestly. Only you know what goes on behind the scenes leading up to your wedding so it's not like others are gonna judge you for adding/subtracting later. She sounds involved so I doubt she'd be offended

I invited a good friend of mine who isnt a bridesmaid to my bachelorette party and bridal party planning. I say keep her as involved as possible.

You definitely can ask her to all of those things. I'm giving my MOH a list of friends I want invited. I have three sisters and FH has one. That's already four, and then I have three on top of that. I wanted two more but FH cut me off, and said the bridal party was getting too big. I agree, but at the same time I wish I could have them. One of those two girls is my day of point person. (The other is singing in our ceremony.) Her phone number is being given to guests/vendors on a "call anyone but the bride" list. She is an amazing event planner, and an even better friend. I know she will make sure everything goes flawlessly on my wedding day and she is going to be at every event we have.

You can invite her to those events! No problem there and you can find other ways to have her involved! Just don't stick her on guest book duty .

Just ask her. I asked a friend of mine after we'd picked our wedding party. I told her, "It feels weird to me having you there as a regular guest, when I wouldn't be getting through grad school right now without your amazing support. You're a really important person to me, and I'd love it if you would be one of my bridesmaids." I made it clear that there wasn't much more to do besides attend the wedding like a regular guest (same goes for the rest of the wedding party).

Just invite her to the events you want her to come to

She can usher, be your music cue person, one bride I know gave a role called gm, I don't know if it stood for general manager or general bridesmaid but they were like the coordinator.

I was on here a couple weeks ago with a similar situation. I didn't know if I should ask my friend, and the girls here encouraged me to just do it. So glad I did cause when I asked, she was so touched she got teary eyed. She didnt even question why I asked her so much later compared to all my other BM. If its still possible for her to get the dress or whatever else she needs to be in the wedding, I say go for it.