Friend staying over

I guess this isn't a big deal to me as I would count his sleeping over as the opportunity to meet him. Not that you don't, but I would trust my FH to only offer this to someone who he trusts. To me, not an issue. However, if you're really uncomfortable with this, then that is valid. Maybe you and your FH can travel down there for a getaway weekend and have lunch with the friend so you can meet him?

If doing something like that would make you feel more comfortable, then I don't see the harm in it and would hope your FH can understand why as well.

I absolutely understand, but if you're uncomfortable enough that it is making you pause before agreeing to him stay over, you need to listen to that feeling as well. I think that sometimes as women, we ignore our feelings in order to not offend or hurt others' feelings. If a video call would help put you at ease, then I would definitely do it. You're not saying "no" to your FH, you're just wanting to make sure you're comfortable in your own home.

That sounds like a great idea! Maybe you can schedule a lunch (can you see I have food on the brain?) at a midway point between both locations.

I wouldn't care if the person was good friends with my husband. Plenty of his friends have come into town and stayed at our home, and it was the first time I met them. Sometimes it's just been a guy friend, sometimes it's the guy & wife, and sometimes it's guy, wife, and kids. It's never bothered me and I've been more than happy to host my husband's loved ones in our home and meet them.

This wouldn't bother me if it was just a night or 2. A week or something...that's different. I wouldn't want to randomly spend a week planning meals around a guest I'd never met. But I guess I could just make it work.

Anyway, would you feel weird if FH said "before your college girlfriend can come in, I need to meet her" ? Because I can't imagine my FH telling me he needed to meet my friend who is a girl before she came for a sleepover.