Friend referred me here -- am i crazy?? Is there a chance he could propose. Idk

Hi hi. Well I hope things go well but I feel he has mentioned he is going to marry you but if it does not happen on your birthday do not be discouraged and if it does great. I think the big step is that he has made it clear he wants to spend his life with you.

It's definitely possible, but if it doesn't happen try not to be too disappointed. Five days prior to my husband proposing, we went to a baseball game (Tuesday) and he kept joking about proposing on the big screen at the game. I definitely didn't think we has going to propose because his brother was proposing three days later (Friday). My mother-in-law's birthday party was on Saturday. On Sunday, my husband proposed. My husband and brother-in-law planned their proposes two days apart without realizing it. I guess I should have realized my husband's plan because he suggested getting my nails done right beforehand which he had none suggested that before and he knew I wanted my nails to look nice when he proposed. They realized it a couple months beforehand when the plans were already in place. You'll have to let us know if he proposes though.

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Very true!! im excited about it in general even if it doesnt happen then lol

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Awww soo cute!!!

i wont be disappointed! not really counting on it, just thought his behavior was odd. like he was asking me at 8am if i was excited for my birthday?!! hahaah

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That is definitely strange. Fingers crossed he proposes

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Thanks. Part of me is open to the fact that he may just feel really excited about something he got me lol.

He also oddly asked for my instagram weeks ago...not sure what thats about lol [he doesnt use social media

We shall see]

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Yeah and then this site is great for ideas for wedding planning as there is a lot you may not know or it is good to ask for advice for a lot of things.

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Cool! yeah it looks pretty informative and inviting

I’ve had a lot of disappointing vacations and birthdays and couldn’t even enjoy them bc I thought I was getting a proposal and didn’t. Try to just enjoy the day and not put too much pressure on it.

Sounds like it could be a possibility that he would propose at that time !

Omg! That’s so exciting and so adorable! He better propose to you now, he shouldn’t get your hopes up!

Well at least he has his mind made up that he wants to marry you..which means he sees you as his wife which is a very good thing. If not you bday ...very soon lol

Thanks ladies! I definitely wont be sad if its not that exact day! i know it'll happen eventually

I'm the odd one out here - I never had any ruined birthdays or anniversaries or anything waiting to be proposed to. But, we're also young and kind of follow the "take it slow" idea. It definitely sounds like it's on his mind, but I really encourage people to just enjoy the phase you're in. Enjoy the silly jokes because it's cute and shows he cares; stop trying to predict when it's going to happen. If it happens, it happens and that's great, but if not you still have a great partner and great relationship. If you both want to get married, it'll happen eventually, but honestly rushing it and trying to predict it is just silly. If this is your only marriage, you'll never have this "will a proposal happen" feeling again, so slow down, enjoy it, and stop trying to predict every second of it. Stop and smell the roses! Good luck and I truly hope you get a proposal when he's ready to do it!

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Lol I am enjoying it! there's no pressure or rush! wondering is still exciting

My husband began dropping hints too. I think we was so excited and he just couldn't keep it in, lol. He didn't even realize he was giving hints and he didn't believe me when (after he proposed) I told him I knew it the whole time. But even as we were walking into the restaurant he tried to convince me that we weren't getting married for a while. I got suspicious after the first clue (and honestly felt like I was getting myself excited for nothing) but wasn't 100% sure until he kept dropping more little clues .

So, yes he could very well be proposing which is very exciting

But, he could also not be and just excited about something else he got you. Which you sound like you are ok with. Maybe as your b-day gets closer he'll accidentally give more hints about what the surprise it.

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Omg. lol that is seriously super cute though. How cute to get that excited.

I'm definitely ok with both lol. I mean he made sure to tell me not to get him anything expensive because he didnt spend a lot on me, so he probably didnt want me to over buy for him. So it may just be a sentimental gift lol

It's possible. Only time will tell. It sounds like you're taking the right approach and not getting your heart set on it happening THAT DAY, which is important. I'm also curious if you guys have directly talked about marriage outside of arguments. That's probably my only note of caution - if he's only saying that he wants to marry you when you guys are arguing or using cutesy nicknames, I'd say to tread with caution because that could absolutely be a manipulation tactic to stop or "win" the fight with you. I sincerely hope that's not the case, but I had to throw that out there.

I can say that my FH and I talked about getting married and our expectations of marriage and the wedding many, many times long before he ever "popped the question". I'd say that I knew he intended to marry me eventually probably a year and a half before he actually proposed, and I also know that he only waited because he knew I wasn't quite ready (I was going through a very bitter divorce when I met FH). If it was up to him, we'd have been married a year or more gone.

I'll also say that I knew within a few weeks of when he was going to propose. He asked me about my ring size and jewelry preferences (which I'd assumed were for Christmas presents initially since he asked me a couple months before that holiday), but when no jewelry showed up for Christmas and he randomly dropped other comments about marriage and weddings here and there ("when we get married" kind of comments), I suspected in January that he was going to propose soon. I even mentioned it to my friends on a girls night that month. They later admitted that they flipped out when I went to the bathroom because they all knew (he'd asked for their approval of the ring and if they would support him marrying me). He ended up proposing to me a few weeks later on a trip for my birthday that he'd gifted me on Christmas. :-D

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Aww! That's exciting.

Hmm he definitely DID say it once during an argument, and the other when i just sent him a funny single ladies GIF.

Hmmph. We have discussed the fact that we wanna get married etc, but he mentioned probably next year......Hmmm yea im starting to think he's not. I'm not really upset though. I couldve over thought the stuff he was doing

Only time will tell! It sounds like you guys are really happy together and moving towards engagement. If it’s not on your birthday it could be some other day. I know it’s tough but try not to put too much pressure on significant dates and enjoy the time spent together.