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Just Said Yes November 2020

Friend Planning Wedding Near Yours

Sophie, on January 3, 2020 at 10:38 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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One of my best friends, who is in my wedding, just got engaged. I am so excited for her; however, I am stressed because she is looking to plan her wedding near mine. She doesn't know our plan/dates for our honeymoon yet. Is it okay I share my plans with her? I don't want her to think she has to plan her wedding around mine/our trip, but I obviously want to be able to attend her wedding but might not be able to if it interferes with our dates... I just feel like I should be upfront in a nice way, but I also had to plan my wedding so far out because of other's plans, so I know how annoying it can be. Anyone have a similar situation or advice?

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Latest activity by Haley, on January 3, 2020 at 2:47 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on January 3, 2020 at 10:42 AM
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I wouldn't say anything. Bringing up your dates is doing exactly what you said you don't want to, asking her to plan around you. If she considers you a VIP and wants to make sure that her date works for your schedule, she'll reach out.
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Jill · on January 3, 2020 at 10:44 AM
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I would tell her your plan! After I got engaged, one of the girls I was going to ask to be a bridesmaid got engaged a month later. I immediately told her our plans and said no pressure if she couldnt come/be in the wedding due to her planning hers. It ended up being fine since they picked a date two months ahead of ours, but it's always nice giving them that information so they can keep it in their mind while figuring their own stuff out! I would just make sure she knows that there's no pressure to plan around you. If she wants you there she'll make sure to ask you anyways, so might as well just give it to her upfront!
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Givemeallthepups · on January 3, 2020 at 11:12 AM
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My best friend and I got engaged within a few weeks of each other and we both knew we wanted to get married in the same general timeframe. My friend set her date first, immediately told me their date and we planned our date around hers. We ended up setting our date for 3 weeks before hers. It’s been nice to have my best friend in exactly the same wedding planning phase that I am.
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Haley · on January 3, 2020 at 2:47 PM
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I would tell her your plans! One of my BM is my FH cousin and she got engaged after she committed to being a bm.
She is getting married like 3 weeks after us.
She wanted to get married the weekend after us (I would've died tbh haha) but she said it''s important we be there (I'm a bm in her wedding now too) so she planned it for a later time because we'd be on a honeymoon still.
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