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Lynne
Super August 2022

Friend on tight budget

Lynne, on June 12, 2019 at 7:15 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 12
I have a good friend getting married on Halloween this year. Not exactly a problem except she has not purchased anything for her wedding. Not even the dress. She is claiming she won't become bridezilla, but she is already stressing out. I got her a sash already. I can't financially help out, because I am getting married next year.



How can I help her not stress out? I don't like seeing my friends stress but she finally admitted that she procrastinated way too long. She got engaged last year.

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Latest activity by Pirate & 60s Bride, on June 14, 2019 at 12:04 PM
  • Trista
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    Trista ·
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    I don't think there is much you can do. It sounds like a sink or swim kind of situation. Either she gets on planning, or she moves her date.
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  • CDickman
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    CDickman ·
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    Has she gotten a venue yet? Or a photographer. If not can she postpone the wedding a year?
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  • Hera💙
    Savvy October 2019
    Hera💙 ·
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    You can ask your friend if there's anything you can help out with. Other than that, I'm not sure if there's anything left for you to do Smiley sad

    But she is right. She procrastinated way too long and there's a good chance there won't be a lot of vendors and venues available for her wedding date. There's a pretty good chance that she may have to postpone the wedding if she doesn't find anything, unfortunately.

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  • Lynne
    Super August 2022
    Lynne ·
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    I suggested maybe postponing until next Halloween and she said "My FH wanted to marry me last year and I can't make him wait another year." The photographer she had backed out and she asked me to do it, but she wants me as her MOH. I told her that I would but I can't be in the wedding and take pictures at the same time. I think the venue is going to be at a cabana at where her mom lives, but I don't think it's reserved yet. She is not exactly happy with the cabana.

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  • Lynne
    Super August 2022
    Lynne ·
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    She has me as her MOH and I am trying to be helpful with setting up times to meet up with her to go over what she has and what she needs. But, things keep coming up for her not to meet at the set times. We were going to get together this past Monday but she had an appointment then it was going to be Tuesday then she had to take her daughter to the dr because she got hurt. So, now she pushed it back to Friday.

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  • Lynne
    Super August 2022
    Lynne ·
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    I personally think that she should postpone it for one year. The decorations/colors she wants are not easy to find unless she gets it all online. But, I'm afraid that if she does that she won't like what she gets. She is even ordering all the dresses online.

    I have to wait until Friday to see what happens. We are supposed to get together to talk it out and make lists for her. We were supposed to meet up two different times this week and something came up both times for her.

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  • CDickman
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    If it is not reserved yet and it is Halloween night she may not get it. Venus book up fast on holidays even faster. I would help her see what is open. She is not going to have many options on anything.
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  • Lynne
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    Lynne ·
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    I don't think so either. But, so far she isn't listening to what I am trying to tell her. I am doing what I can to keep her calm and help where I can. But things keep getting in her way to meet up with me on the days and times that she schedules with me.

    At the same time, I am trying to plan my wedding. I don't want to procrastinate like she is. I am trying to keep myself calm and focused.

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  • CDickman
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    You are trying to help unfortunately if she is not listening he wedding mat just be postponed. There is not much else you can do.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    You can send her a checklist but then let her do her thing. My sister put together her wedding in 4 months. She picked an amazing venue off-season, bought a dress online, had no real decor or entertainment besides dinner/cake, didn’t stress about anything and it turned out beautiful.
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  • Lynne
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    Lynne ·
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    My friend has a very small budget. She is not buying dresses until August, she wants specific decor, wants a bigger/better venue.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Well then it's on her if she wants all of these things. It's not a friend's job (or MOH or MOB) to help plan a couple's wedding. It's the engaged couple's job only. Just let her know you're there if she'd like to bounce an idea off you, or get a hug. Focus on your own wedding. Smiley heart

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