Friend makes up fake engagement to keep up with me

I would just ignore it.

In my experience, people who make up things are trying to get a reaction out of you. It's best not to feed into it. I probably would just say "Congrats!" and leave it at that.

I have a cousin that is 9 years older than me that does this lol. I just say congrats or ignore her and leave it at that. She either tries to keep up or one up me. Like life is no competition lol, if you're happy, I'm happy. When FH and I got engaged, she was also engaged to a guy we never heard of and called the entire family to give the news. Then we all found out she was lying. Then we I started my master's program, she did the same. I went back to get this promotion at work, plus my company paid for me to go. She then applied to master's program and took extra classes to finish before me lol. Now, she's getting a PhD and asked me if I plan on keeping up with her lol.

View Quoted Comment Lol wow! Thanks for sharing. It's unfortunate it happens to people but I feel better knowing I'm not the only one! Im not a competitive person, so it was hurtful that she felt the need to try to one-up me like that. It does show her true colours though. Thanks!

View Quoted Comment That is true! She's tends to be an attention seeker, so that makes sense. Thanks!

I would ignore it. I had a Narcissist ''friend'' who became very angry, Jealous and Insecure when I became engaged. She didn't like when people would tell me my ring was beautiful or ask about my wedding so she started wearing random rings on her ring finger even though she is not engaged all because she was Jealous of me. So glad she is out of my life!

View Quoted Comment That's so crazy! People are so weird. I think I'd feel better with her out of my life too. Just struggling with how to go about cutting her off.

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I know it may be tough but you may want to look into cutting your ''friend'' out of your life if she is causing you problems

I try not to be alone with the dramatic/jealous one I have. She does "self-destructive" things to put the focus on her.. think getting too drunk too quickly on purpose and being sick/helpless so someone has to stop what they're doing and babysit, feigning food poisoning for a week so someone else would have to bring her food, etc. It isn't really a big deal if there are others around. She just gets noticeably moody and it resolves without drama. My solution to it is handle it but limit or shut off my emotional response. It's really sad that she had to make up a story and drag another person into it just to appear better.

If anyone understands on a psych level what this is, I'd be interested in hearing all about it.

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It's called Narcissism! People with this kind of disorder will go to great length to one up their target and will do anything get any cheap attention and validation that they can it. I just found out recently my Narc ''friend'' Went out purchased her own engagement ring told her boyfriend to take her out to dinner before Christmas and surprise her with an engagement. She literally staged her own engagement than posted all over social media about the engagement and took pictures of different angles of the ring, Made sure she had pictures with her hands placed on his. Everything looked forced and staged nothing about it seemed natural and they have a rocky relationship. She must have caught heat for it because now everything is deleted. Talk about crazy!

I've had friends like this before. I agree with others; just ignore it. If you don't want to be her friend anymore, that's totally your right and I honestly get it, but I wouldn't confront her about it. It's a waste of energy and she honestly won't accept/own up to it anyway, so what's the point?