Friend Hijacked Photographer

100% would ask that bridesmaid to pay for her pics lol 😂 who even does that?! Lol

Honestly, shame on the photographer! They should know better.

I wouldn’t pay for those.

If that Bridesmaid wanted them, she’ll have to pay for them.

I would never sign a contract with a photographer who would not agree on a picture list ahead of time. Some think only their judgement counts, and they are the level of photographers who sell coffee table books. They aren't.

I'd blame the photographer though toobecause they should have known better also !

I'd be super mad at the photographer who should know better. I'd demand a discount from the photographer but wouldn't demand the bridesmaid pay anything because I'd simply never release any of those photos. I wouldn't want to deal with the drama and confrontation.
If it were a few pictures that would be fine and expected but enough to be sure she hijacked the photographer? I'd get petty and upload only group photos of her (with the rest of the wedding party, etc.) and not release a single photo of just her/her and her family.

View Quoted Comment A selfish person! Lol

View Quoted Comment I would definitely demand a discount from the photographer especially since they only had a small wedding photo package. Honestly dont know why the photographer would think that was okay.
I also think its soo gutsy for the bridesmaid to be texting the bride asking if she got her photos back yet knowing dang well that some of those photos are of her and her family like UGH!
Same, i wouldnt release the photos to the bridesmaid. If she ever brought it up i would tell her there were no photos of her.

View Quoted Comment Fact. I would definitely mention something to the friend.

My photographer and I have a list, and she would consult me before taking family photos of someone.

View Quoted Comment Exactly!! It was unprofessional and unacceptable! I can't believe the BM texted that!! I would totally lie too 🤣

That's awful on the photographer's part! You'd think they would be more professional

I am someone who loves having their picture taken, and am always grabbing wedding photographers to take pictures with everyone. But I would never monopolize someone’s wedding photographer for a family photo session. One or two is fine, as it is hard to get family together and especially dressed up nicely. But to have a whole photo shoot is unacceptable. I would have to ask for some of my money back, as I did not pay for a family portrait photographer.

I honestly didn't hire a particular photographer who's a friend, because she shot another friend's wedding, and the portraits were lackluster, while all the candid photos were of their mutual friends, and hardly any of the families. That's just not what I want, and rather than try to have that conversation with them, I just went with a neutral photographer who's not going to have a personal relationship with anyone there.

I wish I was more surprised, but I've heard many horror stories about wedding photographers. I'm a photographer (I don't shoot weddings though) and because of my photo background I get to hear the stories all the time, plus I've also researched 20+ photographers for my own wedding and am very familiar with how wedding photography packages and photographers typically work. It says in the article this was a budget wedding and I have no doubt they hired a budget photographer that clearly wasn't very professional. No reputable wedding photographer I know of sells packages based on number of shots, and no reputable wedding photographer would allow a bridesmaid to hijack that many photos. I totally get that budgets vary greatly for weddings (we are spending 2-2.5x what we originally wanted to spend, just because we really didn't understand how expensive weddings were), but skimp on invitations, decorations, flowers, favors, etc before you skimp on the photographer.

But hey this is better than the last wedding I went to, where the photographer the couple had hired was blackout drunk and couldn't even walk up stairs. The groom had to steal her camera and delete all of the bridesmaids "getting ready" photos because the photographer had taken a lot of photos while the girls were naked. He ended up handing me the photographer's camera (which he essentially stole as collateral because he'd already paid $2,500 to the photographer for photos) and I photographed most of the reception. I was a last minute guest to the wedding, so that ended up being my wedding present to the couple.

I also have friends that waited more than six months for their photos and another couple that got married a year and a half ago still haven't received their album. If your budget can afford it, please hire a reputable, established, well reviewed wedding photographer for your big day.