Friend getting married at same venue

She told me now she has to change her idea so it isn't the same place. I have already paid deposit and sent invites not even knowing she thought of same resort as she seemed pretty sent on another resort even though she hasn't set anything in stone. Should I feel bad about this? How do I respond to her about this. I feel like my whole wedding day now I will be thinking about her and how I apprently stole her idea she never told me about or planned

Relax, you won't be thinking of her on your day. She'll get over it and you should too. Who cares if it's the same place!

Hahaha this has to be a joke

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And I am very lost on your entire story

Tell your friend that she gets one day. You get one day. No one has monopolies on a venue, a white dress, a country, flowers, food, cake, dancing, etc. One day. That is it.

Thanks Crystal that's how I feel! As her friend I would just be happy to celebrate her special day with her where ever she wants to have it even though she hasn't even done any planning yet

Um ohhhkay.... I wouldn't even respond to that. So just because someone wants to get married at a certain resort no one else is allowed to use it? Doesn't work that way- as PPs mentioned, you (and I say that as a general "you", not directing it at anyone in particular) don't get a monopoly on venues etc.

Even if everything were to be 100% identical, venue-wise, theme-wise, etc (which I highly doubt), the experience would still be different, so it should be a complete non-issue.

It sounds to me like she's copying you, but really, who cares. Even if 1 or 2 guests attend both wedding it shouldn't be a big deal. You put in all your time and effort into planning your event so you should absolutely not feel bad for doing things right unlike your friend who sounds like she procrastinated. You can feel bad for about 5 seconds, then move on. Good luck with the rest of your planning!

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Your friend and your days will be different even if at the same resort there are likely to be a few things different.

Why does it matter? Same resort doesn't equal same wedding. None of the same guests are going to be there so I don't understand what the big deal is....your response should be happiness for your friend. She found a venue for her wedding. That's very exciting

One of my Friends and I are getting married 5 weeks apart. We both looked at a couple of the same venues, I remember going through a conversation like this with her. To be honest my response was well then we are getting married at the same place. It might be the same place but it's two different weddings. We aren't getting married at the same place anymore, but it really shouldn't be an issue. No two weddings are the same.

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There's just not much you can do here, and it's unfair for your friend to be mad at you. You didn't know she was interested in this venue! Also, if no guests overlap this really shouldn't be that big of a deal.

No 2 weddings are ever the same, even if they are in the same venue. You are not a mind reader, how were you to know she wanted it at the same place. This is not your fault. You planned YOUR wedding which is what you're supposed to do. You're not sorry you planned your wedding where you wanted to, you shouldn't be sorry. The guests are not the same so it shouldn't matter anyways. Just continue to plan yours and make yours personal and special. She will do the same.

SHE'S upset? What about your feelings. Especially since you had already booked the venue and sent out invitations. She was already talking about a different venue so I don't understand that at all. If its that much of a problem for her she should choose a different venue. They will not be the same wedding regardless, as long as she doesn't pick your dress and color scheme too.

Mkay.