Friday weddings???

I had a Friday wedding. But it was also good Friday in the evening and we knew most ppl on our guest list would be off anyway.

I'm sorry but this is a very special day for you and your groom, you should not have to worry about someone you are close to having to use a PTO day to go to your wedding! I have also decided to do my wedding on a Friday evening and the people who don't want to "waste" a PTO day on me shouldn't be there anyway! I have 3 kids and would do the same for any wedding that I wanted to attend with no problem. This is not a pop up event, these people have plenty of notice. Bottom line someone will always complain about something! Enjoy YOUR day and don't worry about someone friggen PTO! Lol. Sorry, not sorry!

My wedding is a Friday, but it's also a destination wedding so people who are coming are making it a vacation. My venue didn't have any Saturday's available in the month we wanted to have the wedding. So anyone coming to the wedding will already be at the destination at least the day before and no one is from the destination we will be having the wedding. I've been to Friday weddings, sometimes you don't have a lot of people at the ceremony, but everyone goes to the reception.

The only Friday wedding that bothered me was when the ceremony was at 2 pm so I had to take the whole day off to travel 2.5 hours to get there in time and get ready because it was black tie and I didn't want to wear my dress in the car and get wrinkled.

I'm having a Friday wedding as well. If your having a huge wedding then maybe it's not a good idea cause people will have a issue with getting of work earlier. But mine is going to be family coming from out of town and close friends and family so they are willing because they want to be there. They have plenty of time to give their employer notice so I wouldn't worry about it. Besides it's cheaper and that means you can spend that extra money extra alcohol for them to enjoy themselves

Well we choose a Thursday wedding because 75% of my guest and bridal party are entertainers and that is the one day most of them don't work. Sunday wasn't an option because most work late nights on Saturday. OOT guests really aren't an issue.

I am doing a Friday wedding, my venue was 2500 dollars cheaper, because it was a Friday! All my guest are local so I don't think there should be aby problem!

@GymRat - you are now my favorite. Thursday Wedding, hell yeah!

I am doing a Thursday night wedding as well. I feel with the invitation, ppl would decide to attend or decline. I certainly wouldnt want someone to take off work and then complain when all they had to do was decline.

I'm glad that this topic came up because I'm most likely going to have a Friday wedding, also, because my venue choice is booked solid with Saturdays until November next year. I wasn't a fan of Friday weddings, so it's really helpful reading the responses from all of you. I even made a post about it because I wasn't so sure how a Friday wedding would plan out.

Personally, i wouldn't hate a Friday wedding as a guest, the only thing that would bug me is, id have to leave work early to get ready/get there, or id have to rush home and rush getting ready, and after being at work for a long day, it could be exhausting. BUT obviously your guests love/care about you, so its not something thats a huge deal! Sunday night-Thursday night weddings are the ones i don't understand! just have a Friday wedding at like 7, and not before 4

Awe, thank you FUTURE.MRS.SMITH. glad to find someone else from Cincy

All for Friday weddings! I am doing a Friday brunch affair, and I don't care. It really depends on your situation. Number one, not everyone has a 9-5, Mon-Fri job... I work in the entertainment industry, and most of my friends would actually have a harder time attending a wedding on a Saturday. I've already had two bridesmaids tell me they won't be able to make it because they have contracts (which is totally fine, btw... people's lives don't grind to a screeching halt for someone else's wedding). It's life. Number two, most of my guests are OOT, so people are taking days off no matter what. Plus, plane tix are actually cheaper mid-week. And people have already bought them. Only our immediate family and a handful of guests live where our wedding will be (FH and I live in Atlanta and are getting married in St Pete, FL). And if people can't make it? We'll understand. Again, the world won't grind to a screeching halt for our wedding day.

PS: If you've already booked your date, why ask? Don't go looking for negative energy when you can't do anything about it. Not everyone gets married on the "normal" Saturday evening. You'll have a lovely wedding, and the guests who are able to make it work, will.

Most of my quests that would of had to travel would be taking Friday off to travel for an early morning Saturday church service for my cousins weddings.

We are getting married Friday in a private ceremony. Than cocktails at 6 dinner at 7 for a large reception. It works for us.

If it is local and I don't need to take more than a couple of hours off work no problem! If I have to travel, probably won't happen. I get 13 days of vacation a year. One daughter lives 1100 miles away and another lives 300+ miles away. DS goes to college 500 miles away. What vacation time I get is for when I can get them all together, and a long weekend on our anniversary. That kills it.

I have no problem with people choosing Friday (or any other day of the week) if that is what they want. BUT, if they start with the "If they want to be there they will find a way to make it work" crap I lose my shit.

2 examples:

My then 18yo stepdaughter HAD to get married at 5pm on a Friday in May. (no special reason it was 5 pm, she just liked it). 3 of her aunts (my SILs) are teachers. All 3 of them are contractually forbidden from any kind of PTO the 30 days prior to the end of the school year. (see? They wanted to come but couldn't). That was 3 entire families from that side that could not attend. My oldest DD is very close to stepdd and wanted to attend but was in the 90 day probationary period of her new job. NO PTO allowed unless you die. Again, someone wanted to be there but could not.

Then, there is my nephew who got married on a Friday at 6:30 pm. He and stepdd are cousins and share those 3 aunts who are teachers. Both got married in the same city.

Nephew and his then fiancé planned it so that those they hoped to see there could attend.

All the family (more than I mentioned) who could not attend stepdd's wedding were at nephew's wedding because of the timing. Their family and friends DO mostly work 8-5, M-F so they planned accordingly. The place was packed and it was a hell of a party.

Plan whatever day works for you but if you plan something where a lot of people can't attend you need to be very gracious about any declines you receive.

I've only been to one Friday wedding and it would have been fine except I have 2 kids and no kids were allowed. Getting off work was no problem, finding a babysitter who wasn't going to the wedding or who wasn't working (because it was at 3pm) was another story. My husband got to go to the ceremony and I had to wait until the reception to go because my parents didn't get off work until 5pm. The reception didn't start until 630pm though (Catholic wedding, reception at another location). She is family so she completely understood but I would have liked to go to the ceremony too. Normally I would have a babysitter easily but most of them were going to the wedding. Other than that, I think Friday weddings are perfectly fine!

We are doing a Friday wedding it's a compromise we had to make in order to have all the guests we wanted to and still include everything. It's at 6:30pm so shouldn't interfere with too many schedules, the last two weddings I have been to have been Fridays and we loved it

We're having a Friday wedding. We chose it mostly out of necessity - most of the Saturdays were booked for our venue more than a year in advance. We did it knowing that a lot of OOT guests might not be able to make it. We also scheduled it late enough in the day/evening that - hopefully - it would not interrupt most peoples' schedules. As long as you're aware that having a Friday wedding might not allow some guests to attend, you should be okay.

As a guest, I prefer Friday night weddings. I get to celebrate and have fun, while keeping my weekend. It's a win, win in my book. I'm having a Thursday wedding, and I really don't give a crap if people find it weird or rude. We wanted the venue and they had ZERO Friday, Saturday or Sundays available for the time frame we wanted. Plus we're saving about $90 a head... what what!!!

@GymRat @Cynthia @Jdmom87 - Thursday wedding brides, UNITE!

I went to a Friday wedding before about 2 hours away. The ceremony was at 6 so I took a half day at work, wasn't a problem. I remember leaving on Saturday afterwards and FH was like, "I love that we still have two days to do whatever before work on Monday!". He was so right.

So I am a fan. Not so much if it is early in the day, but I love an excuse to peak out of work a little early on a Friday (and don't mind using a half day or a day if needed).