Friday wedding and momzilla

If people really want to be there, they'll be there. I went to a coworkers wedding on a WEDNESDAY and a lot of people were there. As long as you don't have it in the middle of the day, people will still come. Most people can get of an hour or two early (or have a half day) on a Friday anyways. Stick to your guns!

If you want a Friday night wedding then you should have it. Maybe start at 6:00 or 6:30 and most people should be able to get there by then. Anybody that really wants to be there will be there no matter what. It’s your day so do what you want. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! That’s exactly what I was thinking and they will get save the dates at least 9 months in advance if not longer. I hate drama esp w family

View Quoted Comment I don’t want a night wedding per say I want a Friday wedding. W cocktail hour at like 5

People who really want to be there, will find a way to make it work. For me, if I was invited to a Friday wedding, I would be so happy to have an excuse to get off work a couple hours early on a Friday.

You're doing the right thing for your budget (or whoever is paying), so don't let anyone talk you out of that.

I’ve been to two Friday weddings (100-120ish guests?) and am having a Friday wedding myself (150ish guests invited). My mom had the same reaction but she came around when I told her out of towners could have the weekend with us to explore the city at leisure and do fun things together like post-wedding brunch. Now she loves the idea.

Our wedding will be on a Thursday. We’ve had a lot of mixed reactions. My future mother in law thinks it will be difficult for people to come, but we love the date. The date will be 5 years exactly since we first met. A lot of people already know the date that’s 2 years away and we will send save the dates early around 11 months in advance. Most people will be able to plan ahead and use vacation days if needed and we understand if some people aren’t able to come. We know a lot of people that don’t have weekends off including my fiancé. You may have less of a turn out than you would on a Saturday, but you will still have people at your wedding.

By "Having a intimate ceremony with much more at cocktail/reception" do you mean that not everyone invited to the reception will be invited to the ceremony? That's called a "tiered wedding" and, in most cases, this is a pretty rude way to go about things.

Additionally, while I understand what the others are saying, the phrase "people who want to be there will make it work" just... patently isn't true. We've all had social, professional, and personal obligations in the past that make it difficult or impossible to be in two places at once. While there's nothing wrong with/rude about having a Friday event wedding, you're likely going to be more declines than you would for a Saturday wedding. If you want to go with Friday, that's just a trade-off you're going to have to be prepared for.

Last 2 wedding I have been to were Friday weddings and it did not impact the number of guests who showed up. Yes some skipped the church ceremony at 2pm but by 6pm everyone came to the party. With weddings you get plenty of warning to make arrangements to leave work early, to find baby sitters, etc. You will be fine!

Honestly, I prefer attending a Sunday wedding over a Friday. A close family friend is getting married on a Friday in March and my husband and I literally groaned when we looked at the calendar. Yes, we're going, but having to take time off of work for a local wedding is a pain (and we're fortunate enough to be able to take that time, but for me that means canceling my therapy clients). As a previous poster said, not everyone who wants to come necessarily can.


Ultimately, the choice is yours and your fiance's, so do what is best for you. Are you paying for the wedding yourselves? I only ask because you said "save some money with who ever pays." If someone else is paying, I would also consult them.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. My thoughts exactly I’m giving a huge notice. I’m in the customer field too I know what it’s like to have to take off and have to do so ASAP.

View Quoted Comment Oh interesting!! Too bad my mom side is not out of town and the venue is a hour away.

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I agree! A wedding is a fun way to start a weekend. People who can and want to come will be there!

My friends had a Friday wedding (5 or 5:30 pm start) and over 200 guests, so yes people will be there to support you!

I’m getting married on a Thursday. People are going to take off work for ONE day. And if they can’t, that’s ok too. But people will come to you wedding. Plenty of people get married on Fridays. Don’t worry!

We are having the same issue! We're having an intimate ceremony (only 25 people) with the same 25 at an intimate cocktail hour/dinner right after. Our date is 6/19/20, its a Friday and we've had a few people gripe about it, but the few who are invited are close enough that they don't mind, and I've tried to spin it like....take the weekend off and explore our location! Have a mini-vacation! Something positive and if they can't make it for the friday we tell them we totally understand and we'll celebrate at a later date.