So i am a young bride, ill be 23 when I get married. And I'm just struggling with the correct "formalities" or what the old school traditional rules are.
The first thing the parents are complaining about are how im addressing invitations. I am addressing them as "Mr. And Mrs. Smith" if its a married couple. They said I should be doing it as "mr. And mrs. John smith". I personally feel like a woman is not Mrs. (Husband's) full name...so i won't be doing invitations like this.
Then comes the table numbers. I am giving everyone their own place card because it comes with a little goodie. Im being told that I need to just give couples or families 1 place card because they're at the same table. I also need to put "Mr. John Smith" instead of "John Smith"
My thing is, do they really think someone is going to be like "wow I'm so offended my name wasn't written in the formal manner I'm not showing up". Like if someone cares enough and doesn't show up do I really want them at my wedding? I'm trying not to be a bridezilla about it all but I already made labels for the invitations and the place cards are written out...
Is this just a formal respect thing that I'm too young to understand?
Keep in mind me and FH are paying for everything ourselves...