I didn't think of this sooner, since FH and I both have names that aren't shortened. (Believe it or not -- Kate isn't short for *anything* in my case!) For those of you with programs, are you doing full first names, or the shortened versions people go by? The best man, groomsmen, 3 readers, and part of the family presenting the gifts all go by shortened versions. I've never heard most of them use the longer version.
Things like:Ben (short for Benjamin)
Pam (short for Pamela)
What are you doing in your program?