Kate
Devoted November 2019

Formal or Shortened Names on Programs

Kate, on October 9, 2019 at 1:46 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 1 29
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I didn't think of this sooner, since FH and I both have names that aren't shortened. (Believe it or not -- Kate isn't short for *anything* in my case!) For those of you with programs, are you doing full first names, or the shortened versions people go by? The best man, groomsmen, 3 readers, and part of the family presenting the gifts all go by shortened versions. I've never heard most of them use the longer version.
Things like:Ben (short for Benjamin)
Pam (short for Pamela)

What are you doing in your program?

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  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
    Sarah ·
    We didn’t do programs, but we had a list of the wedding party and their relationships to us at the reception. We just asked if they wanted us to use their full name or nickname. Most went with nicknames.
  • Da Mom
    August 2022
    Da Mom ·

    If your wedding is formal, then I would do formal names. If it's casual, then using nicknames should be fine.

  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·

    FH's name is Christopher, but only me and his mother call him that. Everyone else calls him Chris. That being said, everything wedding related has/will have his full name spelled out (save the dates, invitations, wedding website). Personally, I just think it looks better in our case, also more formal which I like. That and that is his name lol. It's really up to the person!

  • Gabrielle
    Devoted January 2020
    Gabrielle ·
    We’re not doing programs; instead we’ll make a sign with all the wedding party info on it, and we’ll use the names people go by—it would feel weird to us if we used their formal names haha
  • E
    Dedicated October 2020
    Erin ·

    I will probably do full names for programs since we are having a very traditional ceremony but do their shortened names for place settings etc at the reception

  • L
    Dedicated August 2019
    Leaves232 Online ·
    We listed people's full first and last names in both the programs and seating chart. If there's ever a time to use someone's full name, this is it! (One exception was my husband's Aunt Jan who HATES to be called Janice lol).
  • A
    Dedicated October 2019
    Alexandria ·

    We did all formal names on the programs.

  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
    I did shortened names
  • Amber
    Dedicated May 2018
    Amber ·

    We had a formal wedding. But we did not have formal programs. Therefore, we used shortened and nicknames for the groom, groomsmen, and both our dads.

    Program - FrontFormal or Shortened Names on Programs 1

    Program - BackFormal or Shortened Names on Programs 2


  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·

    I would ask them what they prefer. People growing up called me Becky but people who meet me as an adult call me Rebecca. I put Rebecca because that's what I prefer

  • L
    Dedicated August 2019
    Leaves232 Online ·
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    Love your infographic style programs!
  • V
    VIP July 2019
    Veronica ·
    This was something my husband and I didn't really agree on. Our wedding was formal so I wanted to use everyone's full names on the programs, but he wanted to use nicknames. We ended up using full names for the programs, but nicknames for some of the people for the introductions. For instance, his one groomsman goes by Joey and that's what everyone calls him so we used his formal name of Joseph on the programs, but had him introduced as Joey. On the otherhand, my sister's name is Cameryne, but some people call her Cam. We used her formal name for both the programs and introductions because that's what we call her 85% of the time. My husband's name is Benjamin, but he goes by Ben. We used his full name for both since I wanted to be introduced as Mr. and Mrs. Benjamin Last Name and I liked it better with using his formal name than his nickname. That being said I feel like it depends on the formality of your wedding.
  • Kate
    Devoted November 2019
    Kate ·
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    This is what I could see doing! We are having a full Catholic mass, so the ceremony is very formal. I feel like it would look more formal if we used full names. I'm definitely planning on using the shortened names for the reception introductions and escort cards.

  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    I love these programs!! Where did you get them? I think my favorite part has to be Sheriff celebrating from home

  • V
    VIP July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    That's exactly what we did. We had an infographic program like Amber.
  • V
    VIP July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Ours were very similar and we got them from Etsy.
  • E
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Elizabeth ·
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    Okay, I literally LOVE your programs. WHERE did you do this??

  • Maria
    Super October 2019
    Maria ·

    I did both. For example, my brother's name is *Chris (Christopher) but EVERYONE calls him by his nickname *Bud. So in the program I wrote:

    Reader - Chris "Bud" LastName ..........Brother of the Bride

    *Fake names used

    I did that for multiple people that had well-known nicknames and I think it looked fine.

  • Cherry
    Dedicated February 2020
    Cherry ·
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    This is the best thing I've seen today. I'm in love with these programs! Thank you for sharing!

  • Cherry
    Dedicated February 2020
    Cherry ·

    I'm not planning on doing programs, but our wedding website has our full names at the top and everywhere else we have our nicknames. My name is Adrienne but I go by Age and my FH's parents had no clue my real name was Adrienne until we started planning the wedding. Finally my FMIL asked, "Who's Adrienne?" It was pretty funny. I go by both names but prefer Age. Anyway, our wedding party will be listed on the website as well, and I just asked them what they preferred and that's what I put. Some people (like my brother) truly prefer to only be called by their full name unless it's family, and some (like my cousin) like to be called by their nickname.

    At the end of the day, I don't think it *really* matters, but it seemed respectful to ask. I wonder if anyone is even going to read all the neat stuff I put on our wedding website or if I'm the only person obsessing over it. TBH it's probably the latter.

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