My parents and extended family are quite traditional, and I'm having issues deciding how to word the invitation and the addressing. My sister got married a couple years ago, and her initiation said "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe;" however, to me, I find formal addressing etiquette extremely misogynistic. Our wedding is fairly formal, and I think excluding the titles would be too informal to me. I can't decide if the format should be "Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe," or "Mr. and Mr.s John and Jane Doe?' I know the former is the grammatically correct way, but the other way sounds more natural. I'm sure I'm not the only person who feels this way.
Thoughts?