Forgot to send thank yous!!

I think at this point just send the wedding thank you notes after

Send them out now

It’s not too late. Go ahead send them out! I sent mine right before my wedding, and I’ll be sending wedding thank you’s in November (3 months after my wedding) so that I can send thank you/holiday card combos.

Do them immediately. 🤷

View Quoted Comment Thank you notes should go out much sooner than 2-3 months, and if you were planning to use wedding photos, send the thank you notes on plain cards or stationery, as soon as you can get them written. When photos come in later you may send them with holiday cards. For wedding gifts that arrive 2 weeks or more before the wedding, those should go out when the gift arrives. The others, as soon as you can write them, after.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your input, Judith, but standard etiquette states that you have up to 3 months to send your wedding thank you’s, and I will be sending mine just under that. I always appreciate a photo card, which is why I have chosen to go about it this way, and I will have the ability to add a little personalized note to each one. You assume that I haven’t sent out thank you notes to those who sent gifts before the wedding, but I never referred to those... I sent those out as the gifts arrived. I think it is overkill, and a lot of work, to send wedding thank you cards in September and then holiday cards in November/December, so I am choosing to combine them.

Send them out! It’s better to send them late than never. I think people will be pretty understanding that you’ve been busy lately.

Send them out now! It's definitely not too late. I wouldn't wait until after the wedding.

I think you can still send them out in the next week or so. People will understand

I’d rather get one a couple months later than not at all. As long as you send them out, I wouldn’t worry too much about it!

I'm still working on my shower thank you notes from two months ago and my wedding already happened so I'm working on those ones now, too. Write them as soon as you can, but try not to worry about it too much. It's definitely better late than never, and I've actually only ever gotten a shower thank you note before the wedding once, so I think it's actually pretty common not to send them right away.

View Quoted Comment That makes me feel better! I’ll do them this weekend

View Quoted Comment That's great!

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That is not correct. There is no etiquette rule that you have up to three months to send your thank you notes. According to etiquette, thank you notes are supposed to be sent as soon as possible after the gift is received.

View Quoted Comment This is directly from Brides.com...



Similar info can be found on other sites as well. In fact, some sites even say that proper etiquette gives you up to a full year to send wedding thank you’s, which I believe is entirely too long. Frankly, I didn’t ask for advice on when to send my thank you’s out, so I will be sending them out as planned. I was simply telling the OP that it is not too late to send her shower thank you’s out, even if it’s been a couple of months.

I think you could just do joint wedding/shower thank yous and it would be okay

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Believe it or not, brides.com is not a reputable etiquette site. Reputable etiquette sources say that thank you notes - and not just for weddings or showers, but for all gifts received - should be sent as soon as possible after the gift is received. There is absolutely no reputable etiquette source that says that you have 3 months to write a thank you note, much less a year. The year thing is actually a misunderstanding of the rule that a guest has up to a year to give a wedding present.

ETA: Also, if you mention something, it's open to being discussed, and it's probably going to be discussed if it gives incorrect information to other people.

View Quoted Comment You haven’t even sited a single “reputable source” that you keep mentioning, that says that 3 months is out of the question. If you simply google the question, most sites say as soon as possible, or 3 months max. You sound like a know-it-all, and I am not sure why you are SO passionate about this. Get over it. I have.

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Yes, you're clearly soooo over it that you keep replying to me. Want me to cite a reputable etiquette source? Try Miss Manners or Emily Post (the actual Emily Post, not the Emily Post Institute, FYI). As soon as possible is exactly what I've been saying. By the way, name calling is against the terms of service here.

Congrats on single-handedly ruining this forum. I have not come across anyone as negative as you since I joined. It’s not even worth it anymore. I was wanting to help others who asked for advice, and you attacked for no good reason at all, simply because you didn’t agree. I didn’t call you a name....I said how you were coming across, and I stand by it.