For those who postponed their 2020 wedding to 2021

It was such a HARD decision deciding to postpone until 2021!! We were really looking forward to our wedding after 2 years of being engaged & planning. After the decision was made though, it’s been much easier. Now we are focusing on saving even more money- since we have a whole additional year to save now, we will be able to add some of the “extras” we really wanted but couldn’t afford before. So I’m actually getting even more excited about the big day now! I already ordered my dress (should arrive in August some time), which I LOVE! Buuuuuuut it wasn’t the dress I would have chosen if I had a different figure- there was actually a dress I was OBSESSED with & that would go perfectly with our venue... but it didn’t look good on my body 😭😭😭 Now that we’ve postponed, I have the opportunity to use this extra time to try to lose weight & get in shape... so maybe THE dress will be a possibility after all!!
I think the main thing you can do after postponing is focus on the positives and the potential opportunities it creates for you.

I agree with Chrysta. It's been really hard to adjust to waiting a whole year, especially since I had my heart set on a July wedding (now we're August 2021). But...

-We now have more of a chance to have the big wedding we planned.

-We have more time to save money, so we can get some upgrades.

-Our family and friends are so relieved we postponed and we didn't force them to make a choice between not supporting our wedding and risking their health (wedding is on Long Island, where the virus is really bad).

We are still weighing the pros and cons of having a small wedding this summer. We already live together, so it doesn't feel as urgent, and I think ultimately our mentality is, "We wanted the big wedding. Let's wait and have the big wedding." A couple of my friends with April weddings opted for the small civil ceremony though, and they were beautiful even on Zoom!

So our date is august 14 and we are working to postpone now. At first I felt so sure it was the right thing to do but now I’m stressing (hence trolling the forums!) but I love the positivity of this post. We are seriously considering getting legally married on our original date then having the big celebration next fall. Hoping to use the extra time to save more and put that towards extending our reception an hour- if we have to wait another year to party may as well do it right!!

Love the perspectives in this post! We recently postponed.. and while we were mentally preparing for it, it was hard once making that final decision. However, we know that it’s the right decision. Everything will remain the same, just a different date! So this year, I can focus on the little details that have been on pause for the past 2 months, and we can use the extra year to further get our finances in order to accomplish 2020 goals. It’s also a good time to reflect on the planning process of ****, and maybe know to approach some situations differently this time.

View Quoted Comment I love this perspective! I think about all the dumb fights we had during the **** planning process. We have gained a new approach for the planning process this year. I am much more appreciative.

It was a really hard decision but today we decided to postpone our October 2020 wedding to September 2021. We will be waiting until next year to have our ceremony and reception at the same time. We had 90% of our vendors booked so we will be keeping most of the stuff the same stuff. In fact, the silver lining is that we have time to save up for some of the things that didn't make our list for October 2020 (cigar bar, chandeliers, saxophone player.) We were initially planning on going to Maui for our honeymoon in October due to it being the most reasonable choice but that's the one thing we will probably change. We have so much time to save money and plan that we will now try for Bora Bora, which was another dream we had to cut short due to the initial budget. Lastly, I'm cutting down my guest list a little bit.

It was upsetting knowing that I would have to postpone for over a year but looking back, this past year FLEW by. I have no doubt that your time will fly by too.