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Dedicated October 2019

For those struggling with anxiety...

Akirah, on August 29, 2019 at 9:25 AM Posted in Planning 1 11

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I wanted to share a major realization that came up for me as I was praying and reflecting this AM.
I’ve been having a good amount of anxiety about our wedding. (I’m sure I’m not alone!) Unfortunately, unnecessary pressure and stress has tainted my wedding planning experience...but I’ll have no more of it! Instead, I really want to appreciate the MYSTERY of whatever is going to happen that day. Can I lean in to the uncertainty without “shoulding” on our wedding and clinging to whatever I think *needs* to happen? Can I trust that whatever happens that day will be uniquely meaningful for FH and I? Can I trust that the love of whoever shows up will be enough?
In other words, I think the day will be special and life-changing...regardless of all the details and unknowns. I want to really shift my perspective toward that as we prepare over the next 43 days.
Anyway, I’m sending all of you much love and peaceful wedding planning vibes! We’ve got this! ❤️

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Latest activity by EmAbrams, on August 30, 2019 at 4:25 PM

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Catie · on August 29, 2019 at 3:36 PM
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Last week I had a really bad case of anxiety, so you're not alone!! I like how you're changing your perspective on the day! Good luck, girlie! You've got this!
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Sinéad · on August 30, 2019 at 7:47 AM
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Hey Akirah! I’m so happy that you have such a wonderful mindset as your wedding approaches! I’m sure you will have the most wonderful day!
Congratulations!
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Jordan · on August 30, 2019 at 11:10 AM
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I feel like I have been in a constant state of anxiety and panic for about the last week and a half. I am now at 29 days and this knot in my stomach will not go away. UGH. I am going to try meditation and see if that may help a bit.
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Dedicated October 2019
Akirah · on August 30, 2019 at 11:12 AM
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Is there something specific you’re anxious about?
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Jordan · on August 30, 2019 at 11:53 AM
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Everything lol. I'm a perfectionist and just feel very out of control. I'm nervous that everything won't be perfect. I also have horrible social anxiety and standing up and proclaiming my love for FH in front of 150 people is not my idea of a good time. I wanted an intimate ceremony followed by a big party but my mom thought it was rude to invite some people to the reception only.
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Alicia · on August 30, 2019 at 12:02 PM
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Awww thank you, I needed this. As someone who deals with anxiety to begin with a wedding can amp it up. Knowing myself I made sure to budget in a day of coordinator and I'm so glad I have
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Cyndy · on August 30, 2019 at 12:13 PM
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I love this!!! I think many brides have some anxiety and this is a great way to look at things. Even if something isn’t perfect you will still be married and just have to go with it. Stay positive and enjoy the experience!! Congratulations!
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Tammy · on August 30, 2019 at 12:21 PM
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I needed to read this.... I love how beautifully u stated how ur changing ur perspective and feelings towards ur special day. I am getting caught up in all the should be's and stress that can be found in planning a wedding. I finally decided this morning to focus on the excitement of planning how my hunny and I r going to share our love with the wonderful family and friends that will be there to witness it. I need to remember it is just 1 small, albeit very special, day out of the years and years of our love. 💗 Hugs and happy wishes to my fellow anxious brides!!!!
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Just Said Yes September 2019
Keiley · on August 30, 2019 at 3:23 PM
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Thank you for posting this! This really offers a wonderful, different perspective on wedding days that really helps ease stress
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Tamika · on August 30, 2019 at 3:43 PM
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I have been having real bad anxiety- for many reasons of course plus my wedding is a Destination Wedding. So just making sure people are able to make it of course.
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Devoted August 2019
EmAbrams · on August 30, 2019 at 4:25 PM
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I love absolutely everything you put in this post. I feel the same. I almost have the “it is what it is attitude” and at the end of the day I will be married to my best friend! Actually tomorrow!!
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