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Rebecca
Master August 2019

For those of us struggling with the season

Rebecca, on November 28, 2020 at 3:40 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6

I get it.

Everyone's been posting about what they are thankful for this month, and asking others to contribute.

For a LOT of us, that's REALLY hard right now.


You're not alone.

My year has consisted of:

Going on our honeymoon, yay!

Losing my 2 paying jobs to COVID

Losing my passion/industry/occasionally paying job to COVID... and a lot of it might not come back

Not seeing my parents for more than a year

Not seeing most of my friends at all, even during times of tragedy

Losing a much-wanted pregnancy

Struggling to get mental health care after said miscarriage

Once I got into therapy, getting to the fun part of healing from my neglectful/emotionally abusive mother

Plus, *gestures broadly at the world*

Oh, AND my FIL and several of our friends have had COVID, so we're quite worried about them


Yeah, I don't have much to be thankful for this year. And I won't lie about it, or put false positivity on it. It's been a super rough year (not yet my worst, but I'm gonna white-knuckle December, honestly).


So, I'm here to tell you: it's ok. It's ok to be angry, or sad, or just surviving. I'm no longer in a really dark place, but that doesn't mean I am ready to turn around and be joyful or bouncy. Mostly, I'm deriving happiness from things like GBBO and Star Trek: Discovery.


We're going to be bombarded with messaging about the season, and happiness, and all that kind of stuff, so feel free to come into this thread and vent.


You're not alone.

6 Comments

Latest activity by Allie, on November 28, 2020 at 9:55 PM
  • Jai
    VIP May 2020
    Jai ·
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    To read this was amazing and gives hope to us all. I can relate similarly to you. Went from a 92 person wedding to 7 people, thankfully we still got married but am still getting our refund slowly from the venue. My husbands best friend mom just died of covid yesterday so that hit a lot of people hard. We went on a mini honeymoon, it was a nice getaway that we needed. I feel so stressed and anxious because covid has impacted our wedding, our newlywed life, and has made everything so stressful. What keeps me together is therapy, journaling, walking, and talking to friends on the phone. Covid is a nightmare and we're waiting for it to end
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  • Sharonda
    Super January 2021
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    Hello Rebecca - 2020 has impacted us all in one way or another - some more than others. Many of us are looking forward to putting 2020 behind us and not look back. However, I wanted to let you know that your strength to survive and endure and your courage to share is indeed admirable. Sending prayers and hugs your way.
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  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
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    I’m so sorry to hear about your job and the miscarriage. 2020 has been rough, my FH lost his job last week....he’s so down. We can’t see his parents because his mom is high risk, so is my father. My baby cousin (she’s like my little sis) had a miscarriage this summer....everyone was crushed. Then my best friend told me yesterday that she gave birth to her baby but he didn’t make it. It’s just been hard. But we have been given another day to push forward and have hope. So don’t give up hope for tomorrow. 💛
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
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    Life isn’t always easy but it’s definitely worth it. I’ve gone through a lot of what you’re going through (not this year but in the past). Add my ex’s suicide & letting me find him plus my mother’s death on my birthday 2 years ago. It took time but I recovered.
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  • B
    VIP July 2017
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    I'm so sorry to hear about your baby and your jobs. On the other hand is nice to have the reality check and know that others struggle as well - there's so much pressure to be bubbly and happy and act like everything is fine - and it isn't always. H and I are both still employed, and I'm work from home (until the end of March, earliest) - and we're grateful for that - but it's hard to be home and isolated. Plus, we found out a couple months ago that we're probably never going to be able to get pregnant. FIL is in hospital with peritonitis from a mesh revision surgery. To make matters worse, the anniversary of my Dad's death is coming up (which makes FIL being in hospital that much more difficult). This is always a hard time of year for me, and this year is worse. It's not easy to be joyful, and the idea that it should be an all the time joy just makes it worse. I wish there were an acknowledgement that it's perfectly okay to be down (or up and down) during this season of cheer.

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  • Allie
    VIP November 2021
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    I’m so glad you posted this because while I do try to have some sort of positivity, it’s almost impossible for me this year. I lost my job in March, right after we put 2 deposits down on a wedding venue and I bought my dress. Then we found out my dad has cancer and I lost it because the thought of him not being here for my wedding day kills me (thankfully, it’s an early stage slow moving cancer). After that, we found out that my aunt who is only in her early 50s only had months to live due to her cancer returning as aggressive stage IV metastatic breast cancer. Literally 2 weeks later my grandfather, her dad, had surgery that he couldn’t recover from and he passed away. He died the day after our year mark for our wedding. And to top all of that off, my best friend was in and out of the hospital with issues nobody could figure out and my FH and I had a HUGE fight because we were both stressed to the max with everything going on. So I feel you. I hate this year. I’m trying to look at December (because it’s my favorite month because I love Christmas) in a positive way, but I can’t help but wonder what else will go wrong. Fingers crossed for a better 2021!
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