For brides without mothers

I'm very sorry for the loss of your mother.

But you can't tell people how to post. Especially with such specific instructions.

My Mom passed a long time ago. I think I'll be OK for our wedding day but Mother's Day is still tough for me but I found what works for me...I tend to get up early that day to visit n honor her. It's only then that I feel I can have a normal day afterwards.

For our wedding, after my hair/makeup trial, my sister will be coming over to take a pic of me sitting on one side of a mirrored dresser in my dress n on the other side will be my Mom's wedding pic, too. The dresser is part of a set that she bought before she was married.

Sorry for your loss n hope you find a way to honor her n still enjoy your day. I'm sure she would want that for you!!!

@melissa don't respond if you have nothing important to say. It's as simple as that

I am going to be in the same boat as you. I lost my mom the years ago the week before mother's day.. now that day is so hard for me every year. I've thought a lot about what to do to honor her. She was going to walk me down the aisle, we had take about it for years! So now my sister's are going to walk me down instead. I'm going to add tiger likes to mine and my sister's bouquets since they were her favorite flower. I know if I do some kind of big tribute, I'll cry all day. I like to keep it simple, personal, and just for me.

When my mom passed I got a tattoo to honor her. Rather than getting something that said mom, I got something that I would know "meant mom" when I looked at it. I got a heart with whiskers on the sides. My mom loved cats so the heart is symbolic of my mom in a cats face. I smile everyday I see it and know she's still with me.

So sorry for your loss! I wish you love and happiness for your wedding and future.

@ambrok I appreciate your response and love what you are doing to honor your mom

Again. You can't do that.

I actually was going to tell you I know how you feel. But reading your last sentence and then your response made me change my mind.

@spiff thank you for your response. I hope your day brings happiness to you and your mom. I like to think that my mom will be watching me and I hope yours is watching you too

My mom passed away 7 years ago this July, I lost her to cancer very quickly - passing away only a year & a half after her initial diagnosis, she was 56. Without question my best friend and biggest supporter, her death was catastrophic for me. The entire wedding planning process has been brutal without her, the amount of times I've had to field the "and for your mother?" question, a reminder of her absence at every turn. Whats helped me through it the most is being able to lean on my BP, in many ways they have almost become Iike surrogate mothers to me during this whole process. I encourage you to lean on your BP ladies as well. I'm incorporating my mother into a few different elements of my wedding, which also brings me comfort - makes me feel like part of her is still with me on that day. It's very difficult, but there still many reasons to smile as I know she would want me to.

My mom passed about 5 years ago and I must say that wedding planning without her was even harder than I had expected. I knew it would be rough but there are more days than I'm happy to admit that I just break down and cry. My mother was not only my sole parent but my best friend and even now there are days I pick up the phone to call her and have to remind myself that this is real. It's not a reality I would wish on anyone. Good luck my friend!

@shannon thank you for your words, I think you are a truly amazing woman, and your words mean a lot to me

@perfectlypolin thank you so much for your words. I know exactly how you feel as far as wanting to pick up the phone and call your mom, I know how that feels all too well. Your a truly amazing woman and I thank you for responding to me.

Hi date twin. I also lost my mother in 2008, and let's just say this is going to be emotional, considering my FH lost his mother last July. We have 2 seats set aside with a sign for each mom to "reserve" their seats. <3

I lost my mom 6 years ago to cancer. She was 52 and it was absolutely the worst period of my life. I've gotten very lucky with my FMIL and she's been very sweet to help out with mom things like dress shopping. Even 6 years later, the grief is still raw and very random. For example I started crying when our officiant asked if my dad wants to say "her mother and I". On my wedding day, I will wear my moms earrings and we are also doing a memorial table with pictures flowers and candles. Beyond that I just can't ...because I don't think I can hold it together. My dad is already a wreck. For those of you who lost a parent, how hard was the wedding day? Per @Kimberley, any tips on how not to be a complete wreck?

My dad died of ALS 25 years ago. Since then, my mom and I were inseparable. We vacationed together, talked every day, would binge-watch TV, my best, best friend. She never had so much as a bad cold my entire life. Then on the 2nd dating anniversary of DH and myself, she had a massive heart attack and died 2 days later. We got engaged 4 months after that. The whole wedding planning process was extremely emotional. I had a lot of subtle tributes to my mom at my wedding. She got married in a baby blue dress, that was my theme color. She had hydrangeas in her yard, I had them in my bouquet. The cake was from her favorite bakery. At first I thought I would have a memorial table, but closer to the date, I changed my mind because I was afraid looking at it at the reception would make me break down. But on my wedding day, I only choked up a little bit when I was putting on my mom's diamond necklace. Honestly I believe that's what my mom would have wanted, and she did something from above to allow me to enjoy my wedding day even though she wasn't physically there. I hope your mom gives you this same comfort on your day.

Lost my mom a few years ago. When I got engaged, I had doubts, only because I just couldn't imagine myself planning and getting married without her. But I had to tell myself; that she would want my life to go on... now instead when I think of her, I become grateful for all the Other experiences that I shared with her and that was a good 21 years of my life. Be strong Kimberly and just believe that she is with you {in your heart} with every step.

OP - I am so sorry you are going through this. I know you requested only for responses that are going through the same thing, but I just wanted to tell you I am choking up here reading your post and all the touching comments. I have lost two of the very close people in one year and I am absolutely heartbroken by it. I hope you find the strength and courage on your wedding day and every day of your life to continue smiling. I am sure your mom is going to be watching over you and smiling throughout your whole wedding day. Sending you lots of hugs.

My mother passed over 10 years ago and it was still difficult without her physically there.

I can tell you how I got through it. I had an amazing support system. My Aunt became a second mother to me after my Mom passed. I still had someone to talk with and take dress shopping.

I honored my Mother in my own ways. I wore her wedding veil and had her photo in a locket on my bouquet. We put out photos of all the family, alive and dead at their weddings. That included my Mother and grandmother. I was adamant about not having a "dead table." That is why we included everyone. That way it was more about the family coming together.

The most important way I dealt with it was to realize my Mom wouldn't want me to be upset. Its a happy day and she would want me to be happy.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss God bless

@StarFromIHJ, I've recently seen the bouquet locket at a wedding & thought that was a precious idea. I also like your 'family' photos instead of just the decreased members. Personally, I'm going pretty low-key on this stuff as I know I couldn't deal with it well. I'm thinking of just a sayingwritten on a mirror with a lit candle in front of it for the reception. I've posted above; but those are things I'm doing are just for myself/privately.

My mom also passed away what will be 6 years ago this coming July. I'm afraid also of how I will be be emotional considering she had always dreamed of seeing me so happy. Everyone has been telling how she's watching from above but for me its not the same. My bridesmaids have sworen to help if I need it. So I'm wishing for the best.