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For a Formal Wedding...Who sends Save the dates? Parents or Bride/Groom?

SwoopeWedsDiop, on November 14, 2014 at 3:59 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 9

Formal invitations are often addressed from the parents of the bride. Does the Save the Date follow in the same way? Should my parents send the save the dates out on our behalf? All these little nuances are what gets confusing for me. Oldest child problems!

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Latest activity by Michelle, on February 7, 2022 at 10:29 PM
  • Heather A
    Master September 2014
    Heather A ·
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    Exactly what Erin said.

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  • Jillian
    Master May 2015
    Jillian ·
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    You would still send them out even if the invites say that the parents are hosting.

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  • Staci
    Master September 2014
    Staci ·
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    Are your parents going to receive the RSVPs? That would be the only thing that needed to be addressed from them in that case.

    I don't think STDs matter...mine were post cards and didn't even have return addresses on them due to space.

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  • AndixLyn
    Master June 2015
    AndixLyn ·
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    You're the adults getting married. you send them.

    if parents are hosting/paying, they have their names on the invites, as in together with their families or Mr & Mrs Brides Parents formally invite you ....

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  • Dani
    Super December 2014
    Dani ·
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    We sent them out from us and had my address as return address.

    The invites were from my parents, had their return address, and the RSVP card had their return address because we are moving and didn't want RSVPs to get lost in the mail. (Plus my mom is awesome and wants to take care of that sort of stuff)

    STDs are pretty informal anyways so it doesn't matter.

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  • FutureMrsChang
    VIP September 2015
    FutureMrsChang ·
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    I agree 100% with out AndixLyn.

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  • FutureMrsMerritt
    VIP September 2015
    FutureMrsMerritt ·
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    You should definitely send them yourself I agree with AndixLyn as well.

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  • Melanie
    July 2021
    Melanie ·
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    Does the bridal couple send out the save the dates or the parents of the bride?
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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Save the dates have been sent out by word of mouth since forever and have never cost anything to send. In past generations, they have been given over the phone since the invention of the phone. With smartphones and computers, you can send the information via text or email that costs you nothing. Postcard/magnet save the dates are a new trend that is 5-10 years old and it’s the intention to pressure you to spend money where it doesn’t need to be spent. Everyone sends them in one manner or another, but most are done the free route. Either way, they have always been informal regardless of the formality of the wedding day itself.



    That said, traditionally the parents of the couple would call up their friends and family who are invited at 6-12 months before the wedding to say when and where it is taking place. In recent years, the couple themselves contacts their guests. There is no right or wrong as long as someone does it.
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