Food sensitivities

I’m not really understanding your question - do you mean you wouldn’t have your guests also come to the restaurant after?

View Quoted Comment No what I mean is this, have dinner at the restaurant but everyone pays for their meal because of her food sensitivity, is that rude????

I don't understand what your sister's food sensitivities have to do with having guests pay for their own meals. In my opinion, it's always rude to ask guests to open up their wallets at wedding receptions. Would the alternative to a restaurant have been a caterer, if not for your sister's restrictions? Any reputable caterer can accommodate allergies and food sensitivities, and if they can't, then exceptions can be made and outside food can be brought in. For the record, I have severe IBS myself and definitely understand food sensitivities due to intestinal issues. But I don't see the connection between the food sensitivities in question and making guests pay for their own meals

I don't understand why your sister having a food sensitivity has anything to do with everyone paying for their own meal. And I personally would not invite people to my wedding and expect them to pay for their own meal, no matter how big or small it is. Please don't take offense, but I do think it's tacky.

I don’t think I fully understand why your sisters food allergies cause you to not be able to pay for food for everyone. The restaurant part is just fine, and not rude. Asking your guests to pay for their food, yes kinda rude.

I understand why your sister's dietary restrictions may lead to going to a restaurant, but what does that have to do with your guests paying for their own meals? I'm totally onboard/understanding why you and she may be more comfortable in a controlled setting, but that seems like a completely separate issue than who pays for dinner.

Your sister's dietary restrictions don't make it ok to be rude to your guests by making them for their dinner. Talk to your caterer and cover the cover the cost of everyone's meals or cut the guest list. Couple's accommodate dietary restrictions all the time without asking guests to pay their own way.

I agree with PPs. We invited only our immediate family to our wedding and paid for everyones dinner the night before and night of. You should only invite people you should be able to afford as well, regardless of food sensitivities.

Yup, rude. Guests shouldn’t pay for their meal at your wedding. Choose a restaurant that can work with your guests’ allergies.

What does your sister’s food sensitivity have to do with guests paying for their meal? I didn’t tell my guests they had to pay for their own desserts because my bridesmaid is allergic to peanuts.

There is zero link between one person's food sensitivities and making guests pay for their own meals. If you want to have your reception be a meal at a restaurant, that is fine for whatever reason. Making your guests pay for their own meals for any reason is not fine. It is ok to serve light appetizers, or just refreshments and cake if you're having your wedding at a non meal time. Although cash bars are frowned upon, many people will be understanding. Having guests pay for their own food is not ok. These people are getting dressed up, driving to you, taking time out of their day to wait around for you and watch you get married, presumably getting you a gift, and you want them to pay for their own meals? Stop grasping at straws. You can word your questions any way you want, the answers won't change.

I have seen that you've asked the same question multiple times and have gotten the same answer whixh yes it is incredibly rude. One of my friends has a gluten allergy and we didn't make everyone pay for their own meal just because she was allergic to gluten. Instead, our venue offered to have a side of gluten free pasta just for her. Most places will accommodate allergy restrictions. Based on this post and your other posts it sounds like you don't want to pay for your guests meal because you can't afford to. If that's the case either have your reception at non-meal time or invite less people.

Please don't blame your sister for you wanting to make people pay for their own meals. Yes, it's very rude. Someone having a food sensitivity in no effects you covering the meals of your guests.

If this is a trial run to see if people will buy this excuse, it's not working. Your guests will be offended.

I don’t understand what your sister’s food sensitivities has to do with not paying for other people’s meals? I myself have severe food allergies and so do my mom and brother, and I paid for everyone’s meals at our reception. We actually deliberately chose a venue who could accommodate our dietary restrictions.


I don’t get why you can’t have everyone order from the restaurant, your sister orders something she can eat, and you pay for everyone’s food? Why would her food restrictions mean you don’t pay for everyone’s dinner?