Food and allergies

UO....but Tbh I think it's kind of rude for them to bring their own food. If you have a proper caterer they better be able to accommodate them especially if they know the allergens in advanced.

I can understand more for the child but either way it's rude to eat out and bring your own food into a restaurant and the same principle applies here. I understand how serious food allergies can be and as long as everything is handled and communicated properly, it shouldn't be an issue. ETA: depending on the venue and caterer licenses/permits/insurance they might not be allowed to bring in their own food anyway.

Becky, how is it rude to bring your own food to avoid a severe allergic reaction???

Cross contamination happens and it can cause anaphylactic reaction.. don't downplay the severity of allergies.

I communicated my allergy to a restaurant i went to about 3 weeks ago. The waitress assured me it would be no issue... I ordered chicken tenders. I got my food, started eating.. I ate ONE tender and most of my fries, I broke out in hives, I then began coughing and dry heaving... my mom yelled for a manager. Turns out they cooked the chicken and fries with the fish, which I'm allergic to.... the manager actually told me it was my fault... cross contamination happens, and it can be fatal.

Most venues, when discussed regarding this situation may be lenient. Definitely speak to them regarding this.

@Becky because wanting to make sure they don't get sick/go into anaphylactic shock is sooooo rude. Your logic is pretty stupid.

Cross contamination happens. It doesn't have to be a whole handful of an allergen that would cause people to get sick. I have a friend that breaks out into hives just being in the same room as certain types of shellfish. Trace amounts can be deadly for some.

Better safe that sorry.

Ugh. There's one in every post.

Come on Becky. That point of view is ridiculous. Yes, they're so damn rude for not wanting their throats to close up.... or to have another type of reaction.... how dare they, those insolent fools. ( eye roll)

I agree with PP, and as @Wanda said, you can ask them if they'd like it to be refrigerated or re-heated. In this case is OK to let them, especially with the little girl, cross contamination is a big worry for us too. FH's cousin is alergic to gluten, so we asked our caterer if she could prepare something special for him, she talked with a colleague of her and asked her to prepare this meal apart from the rest and she'll handle this particular meal, since she doesn't want to risk anyone using any spoon or fork and contaminate it, since it can't even touch something that was once used with a gluten meal

@becky your comment shows you don't understand food allergies. If I touch something made with nut oil I breakout in hives. If it's a buffet and some drops in the wrong pan or someone mixed up the salads, etc., it can cause a SEVERE reaction which would mean the rude part is your wedding now becomes about getting me to the emergency room as fast as possible.

I'm an adult and unless I'm in the wedding, I pack my safe snacks and I don't eat anything but I do try to ask/let people know because Jordan Almonds are so common and if possible to avoid them for my safety, I appreciate it. Like I said previously for my safety I usually don't eat at weddings unless things are labelled (some caterers just automatically do this), have brought something with me, or am in the wedding and am being accommodated. (And even then it can be a stressful experience)

It is very different to deal with a food allergy than a diet, even something like veganism.

And I deal with it all the time from misinformed food service folks who "understand food allergies" only to try to serve me buttered buns when I'm allergic to dairy because their lactose intolerant friend was fine with it or "can't I just pick the nuts off". And this is as an adult. I can tell you if I had a child with my same allergies and severity, they would not be eating at a wedding unless I had talked directly to the caterer and felt comfortable with the precautions or had brought food I knew was safe.

Sounds safest for them to bring their own food. We have one guest with an egg allergy -- we've ordered him a vegan cupcake -- but it's nowhere near as severe/limiting as these sound.

I would alert the venue that this will be happening, so no drama ensues on the day.