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Just Said Yes September 2019

Following up with rsvps?

Josie, on August 10, 2019 at 1:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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I'm going to start following up on RSVPs since our due date was this past week. Luckily we only have 10 outstanding out of 95 sent and three of them are people I work with and see on a daily basis so I feel like this won't be too difficult. We did have a few people say they are not coming to the wedding and I was wondering if I should still reach out to them to make sure they definitely are not coming? I assume a no is a no but FH thinks we should still confirm that they will not be attending. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Chelsea, on August 13, 2019 at 5:32 PM

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Sharon · on August 10, 2019 at 1:58 PM
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I would say no is no and only follow up with those who haven't responded.
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Cher Horowitz · on August 10, 2019 at 2:29 PM
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I would only check in with people who haven't RSVPed at all!
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Sinéad · on August 12, 2019 at 7:30 AM
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Hey Josie!
It’s a great idea to follow up with guests who have not RSVP’d, especially since there is always the chance that their RSP got lost in the mail and never got delivered (a small chance, but still!)
Have the ‘no’s’ that you referred to in your discussion sent you back their RSVPs or have they just told you that they will not be able to attend in person?
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Jenna · on August 13, 2019 at 3:08 PM
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I think it depends on the context of when/how they said no. Did they casually say it a few months back? Or did they call/send something and say I'm sorry we can't make it? If it seems casual and you're not 100%, follow up. If they made a specific effort to reach out and tell you, even if they didn't actually send the card back, I would mark them as a no.
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Chelsea · on August 13, 2019 at 5:32 PM
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I think a no is a no and it seems overkill to follow up with people who have already said as such. If they change their minds at this point they would have to come directly to you. Follow up with just the people who have not responded at all since invites can easily be lost in the mail or people could forget to respond by the date requested.

Though it does make sense to follow up with the "no" crowd IF they just causally mentioned that they weren't going to make it. If it was a formal reply of No then no need to follow up.
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