Following up Rsvp’s

I would wait untill Tueday when the deadline is Saturday. Some people think RSVPs can be sent in on the deadline day. then I would start pushing the reminders.

Our deadline is May 4th, I am going to remind people the 8th, then setting the ABSOLUTE deadline at the 14th... the "if we do not get a response by may 14th we will have to unfortunately mark you as a regret "

It's definitely pushy to follow up before the deadline. You gave them that deadline for a reason, you need to stick to it too. Give it a day or two after the deadline, then have at it.

As far as what to say if they're resisting giving an answer, you can just say "my caterer needs a final headcount by X date, so I need a definitive answer by Y date, otherwise I will have to mark you as a no".

Everything Mrs. Fall Bride says looks good. If you have to leave a message, just say if I don't here back from you by a certain date, I will have to count you as a no.

Hopefully you get a bunch more in right around the deadline, so you don't have too many to follow up with!

Unfortunately we live in a world full of procrastinators and many guests put the RSVP in the mail the day its due. So I would wait until 2 days after the RSVP date, if you do it before then it'll seem pushy no matter what you say.

As far as asking once the RSVP date has past, try to get your parents and future in-laws to help, see if they can casually contact any family members and try to ask in a casual conversation type of way. And for any guests you have to contact yourself politely say that you haven't received their RSVP and were wondering if they could please send it.

The deadline is when they are due so dont contact them prior ot that. Wait until Tuesday and start following up with phone calls. " Hey I didnt get your RSVP back, We are hoping you can attend. We need to get our numbers to our caterer this week."

It's polite to wait until after the RSVP deadline has passed to contact any guests who have not RSVP'd. They have until Saturday, so they are not doing anything wrong by having not sent back their RSVP, yet.

A lot of people interpret the RSVP date as the date that they should put the RSVP card in the mail, not that they should have the card in the mail a few days before that to ensure it's been delivered to you on it before Saturday. If you wait a few days after your RSVP date, then you'll probably get a number of responses in the mail in the 3 or 4 days after your RSVP date, and your list of guests to contact will be a little shorter.

Just say something like, "Hi Bob! Our final numbers are due soon, so we were wondering if you will be able to make it to our wedding on ___?" Keep it cheerful and don't act like Bob has inconvenienced you. I mean, he has inconvenienced you by not following instructions, but presumably Bob is a close friend or relative that you or your FS actually want there with you on your wedding day, so reaching out to Bob to make sure he's coming (or isn't coming) is something you can be nice about. Plus, occasionally invitations get lost in the mail. I've been the wedding guest who never received the wedding invite. Reaching out to get my RSVP was how I found out I was invited. It's hard to be mad at someone for not RSVPing when they didn't even receive the invite.

Don't use wording that is so loose that you are just going to have to contact them again. "I'm contacting you because our caterer needs final numbers and we haven't received your rsvp. If you are unable to commit, we understand and will miss you at the wedding." Unless they specifically ask for more time, you can consider them a no, and move on to the next person.

If you have to leave a message, text or email use similar wording, but give them a specific time to respond. "I'm contacting you because our caterer needs final numbers and we haven't received your rsvp. If we don't hear from you in the next 24 hours, we will have to assume you are unable to make it, and will miss you at the wedding."

I was not polite... I guess but I was getting antsy. Our RSVP's are due Friday and we had a little over 100 left with only a online RSVP option. I ended up texting close friends the website and just a reminder. Some admitted they completely forgot about it. Theses are REALLY close friends (bridesmaids and BIL). I will wait until Saturday to contact the others. I am just REALLY ready for this part to be over. Getting addresses and dealing with OOT family members is getting on my nerves.

I gave OOT guest a 3/20 RSVP date and they are still giving me the run around. STOP being scared of saying NO. Im okay if you cant come.

I'd reach out after. I am giving people the benefit of the doubt that maybe they accidentally waited until the last minute. Then I'm just going to send a text/email/call and say something like "Hey! We haven't heard from you about our wedding invitations, I'm assuming that means you can't make it? Let me know if that changes ASAP, we'd love to have you! We are finalizing our guest count now for the budget. But understand traveling doesn't always work out. Hopefully we can see you another time!" So it's clear to them I need to know, and if they just show up it's a huge inconvenience and super rude. Some people might think I'm a little rude though, so you could even word it nicer!