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Dedicated June 2017

Following up close to RSVP deadline

MrsO2017, on May 15, 2017 at 10:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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So I'm a little neurotic and even though we're still a week out from my RSVP deadline, I started following up with people because I hadn't gotten responses from nearly half of my guests. For reference, the wedding is June 10, RSVP by May 20, invitations were sent in early April. I messaged a friend I haven't seen in many years, but our friend group has been in touch over the years on facebook. I basically just said I was trying to get an idea from people who hadn't responded yet to see if they knew yet if they were planning to come or not. She read it but never responded. I jokingly said that I could see that she had seen my message. Waited a day, then messaged again just saying hi. No response. I'm a little concerned so I sent one more message today asking if she's okay and still haven't heard back. I wouldn't be angry or upset at all if she's not able to make it, but it's a little irksome and hurtful that she won't even reply. Was it rude of me to follow up before the deadline?

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Latest activity by MrsO2017, on May 15, 2017 at 11:13 PM

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EM · on May 15, 2017 at 10:39 PM
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You gave people a deadline so you have to abide by that deadline also.

In fact, you should wait until 3-7 days AFTER your deadline to start contacting people. Your behavior would probably annoy me too.
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Dedicated June 2017
MrsO2017 · on May 15, 2017 at 10:45 PM
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Yeah, I totally get that it's annoying. It's one of my greatest downfalls--I have a really hard time dealing with my anxiety and I kind of started freaking out when we stopped getting responses for several weeks and the deadline was coming up. I guess I just feel like, even though I know I'm being annoying, if you know if you're coming or not, why can't you just say so, and if you don't know, just say that. Even just respond and tell me I'm being a pain in the ass, but why no response at all?
I think the planning has finally just done me in.
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Future Mrs.Nink · on May 15, 2017 at 10:52 PM
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Anxiety sucks and I am completely one who would and will call or text those who haven't RSVP'd as well. Although you should give them a week after the deadline before messaging them. I understand your frustration because my anxiety kicks in too. Give her some time and apologize for rushing her and if she's a good friend then she'll already know and understand your stress. I just started planning and it's a lot already. So happy my fiancé said yes to a wedding planner.
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RealLindseyO · on May 15, 2017 at 11:04 PM
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Don't send anyone any more messages until a few days after your RSVP deadline.
If someone messaged me four times saying they knew I saw their message and why wasn't I responding I would feel soooo awkward. Leave it alone for a while.
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Dedicated June 2017
MrsO2017 · on May 15, 2017 at 11:13 PM
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Ugh. I know, I feel terrible about that. I was totally joking and then when I thought about it later I realized that it's been a long time since we hung out face to facd and she probably just thinks I'm a psycho. I just flipped out when we were like, a week from the deadline and still didn't have a response/solid answer from 80+ people.
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