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She should definitely at least try to get another color. That light blue might look white in certain light.

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Mine will be and I have asked them to wear something to somewhat match. To each their own.

That's definitely not white and no one will mistake her for the bride. She should get to decide what she wears with no input from you.

My mom's going to wear a dress this colour and I never once thought it looked bridal. It's not bridal at all and it's not even close to white. I'd wear a dress this colour as a guest and not think twice about it. The photo is also washed out.. it's probably a bit darker in person.

I don’t think it looks white. I do however think it is a very unflattering dress. Are y’all close enough that you could tell her that it is not pretty and would not look good on her? Because I honestly can’t see that dress looking good on anyone.

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I agree with this. Never once thought to ask my parents to match. They won't be in a photo with my bridesmaids/groomsmen anyways.

I don't think you're being over sensitive or anything about this! From the pictures it looks silver/blue but way to light and close to white. The style itself looks too 'flashy' for a mother-of-the-groom dress, in my opinion.

Hope you're able to change her mind, but don't let her ruin your wedding day! You and your groom are still gonna steal the light no matter what she wears.

This is lighter than my wedding dress. But there was no way I was wearing white.

I don't think this looks like white at all. And I don't think it looks like a wedding dress. I would let her wear it.

I see blue? I really wouldn't worry about it, Its your wedding and obviously your the bride I would hope everyone there would know that even if she did wear white.

I’m in the minority as well and say it’s not worth fighting with a future mother in law about a dress (which could ruin the day and cause a kink in the relationship you’ll always have in your life).

It's your wedding...she needs to respect your wishes. I would tell her no white, no ivory, no gray, and no black 😉

That's a light blue dress. More importantly, though, the only people whose outfits you get to dictate are the ones in your wedding party, so I'd leave it alone.

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It being someone's wedding does not mean that they get to tell their guests what to wear or not wear. It's a commitment ceremony and party, not a play. The hosts can indicate the level of formality, that's it.

I don't see a problem with the color, but the cut and style seems a little young and inappropriate for a MOG.

View Quoted Comment This exactly. This is word for word what I would say as well.

View Quoted Comment I suppose a level of clarity helps: in our wedding, our adult children and our parents want to present as part of the wedding party...so to that end, staying with the color scheme of the wedding is important. I gave everyone a color swatch, said find a style that suites you, but here's the color.

I would ask her to please rethink the colour. This would have be upset as well. It is far too white & Bridal looking.

I would ask that she see if the gown can be dyed to another shade, dip dyed even, that she chooses, if she doesn't like the idea of going with the wedding colours.

What does FH have to say about that? Is he supportive of what you think? Maybe you should talk to him, if you haven't, and maybe he can help with his mom.

Tell her that, while it is a beautiful gown, you just would be much happier if it was another colour....

Best of luck... I have a feeling my FMIL & 22yo FSD will try and play this game.

I agree. This dress looks similar to a wedding dress and it is a very light blue which also kind of looks white. Your FMIL needs to keep looking.

It doesn't look super white to me but what's important is whether you're ok with it. You can have her get it in a different color, or ask her to get a different dress altogether.