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Possum
Master December 2015

FMIL wants tuxes for a non-Black Tie Wedding

Possum, on October 7, 2015 at 3:49 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 30

FMIL really wants the men to wear tuxes. I really don't. I would prefer if the men wore suits. Partially because FH could get a suit and have it tailored, I don't think I can talk him into buying a tux to have tailored. At my dress alterations appointment last night the question of menswear came up and my seamstress said that unless the wedding was truly black tie she hadn't seen men in tuxes in a long time. The question being: How many weddings have you been to recently that were NOT specifically black tie but the men wore tuxes?

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  • thefunbean
    VIP October 2016
    thefunbean ·
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    Can't think of the last time I went to a wedding where the men wore tuxes. My parents are also insisting (for now) that the men wear tuxes, because it's a wedding and that's what you do. I plan to have the guys in nice suits. Although honestly, if my dad wants to wear a tux, he can wear a tux. *shrug*

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  • Mrs. RATR
    Master September 2016
    Mrs. RATR ·
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    I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where the men wore tuxes. Suits for me please!

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  • Elyse
    Master September 2015
    Elyse ·
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    I'm confused. Are we talking about BP or guests?

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  • MrsBest2B
    Master June 2016
    MrsBest2B ·
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    You can rent "casual" tuxes that are really like suits. But I agree with Elyse does she mean your bridal party or the guests? Ours will not be black tie, but FH is renting a tux

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  • Rebecca
    Master November 2015
    Rebecca ·
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    Is this just regarding the groomsmen? I've been to a lot of semiformal weddings where guests wore suits and wedding party wore tuxes. My own will be that way - I would preferred a suit too but FH really wanted to wear a tux.

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  • Jersey
    Master November 2016
    Jersey ·
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    FH was in a wedding 2 weekends ago. They wore tuxes. It certainly wasn't black tie.

    I couldn't tell the difference between them and the really expensive suits that FH wears for client meetings. But, I certainly don't know what the f* I'm talking about when it comes to men's clothing. So take that into consideration.

    We plan on doing suits because for the price of renting a tux (FH spent 300+ renting the tux in this last wedding), FH can ask the groomsmen to buy a suit that they can keep after the wedding.

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  • Possum
    Master December 2015
    Possum ·
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    Sorry! To clarify just the bridal party not the guests. Thanks for the responses so far ladies!! Smiley smile I just think so many of the tuxes look like they are going to prom! The modern tuxes aren't bad, but they end up being suit-like so its pretty much the same as wearing a suit. Our dress code for the wedding will be cocktail attire.

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  • OriginalLaura
    Master March 2017
    OriginalLaura ·
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    My mom wants tuxes too. I think I am just going to tell the BP to wear black suits... will she really be able to tell haha

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    Same as @Rebecca, lots of semi-formal weddings where the groomsmen wore tuxes! That being said, it is totally up to YOU and FH to decide Smiley smile

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  • Future Mrs. Shermister
    VIP October 2015
    Future Mrs. Shermister ·
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    Our bridal party complete with groomsmen, best man, ushers and Fathers are all wearing tuxes and not a black tie event but is a formal Saturday night wedding.

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  • Macy
    Super September 2016
    Macy ·
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    Almost every wedding I've attended, the groomsmen have worn tuxes, and only one has been black tie. Suits are fine, though.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    I see this all the time. I rarely see a guest wearing a tux, but GM? Often.

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  • Elyse
    Master September 2015
    Elyse ·
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    Pretty sure every wedding I have been to the GMs wore tuxes. They did for mine as well and it was not black tie. I am not a fan of the prom look so I went with a classic black tux, black vest, and blush tie. I even made the guys ditch their pocket squares when I saw them. When things get too matchy-matchy it looks prom-like to me.

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  • Jeanne
    Master August 2015
    Jeanne ·
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    If you're having a formal wedding where the reception/dinner will start after 6, then tuxes are absolutely appropriate whether it's black tie or not. Tuxes are formal evening wear, you can wear them to any formal evening event. A black tie event simply requires a tux, that's the difference. If you/your fiancé don't want the guys in tuxes, then you don't need tuxes. But please, don't put the gentlemen in tuxes if you're having a casual lawn wedding. It just doesn't make sense.

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  • NowASeptMrs
    Master September 2015
    NowASeptMrs ·
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    Our GM's wore tuxes. They wore vest and tie in red and husband wore a bowtie/vest in pewter. We didn't have a black tie wedding. It was a ballroom venue and a little more "fancy" but 3:30 wedding in a smaller town.

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  • Sunni
    VIP May 2016
    Sunni ·
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    Most weddings I attend the groom, groomsmen, and fathers wear tuxes although the weddings are always semi-formal. HOWEVER, we're having a semi-formal wedding and FH will not be in a tux. I feel that we should adhere to the formality of the wedding and not do something because people think "that's what you're supposed to do for a wedding." I don't want to see my man in a tux next to his best friend in slacks and a button down, no tie. I want it to look like EVERYONE, including the bride and groom, look like we're attending the same event.

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  • Miranda
    VIP January 2016
    Miranda ·
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    The guys in ours are wearing tuxes. All the weddings I've been in, the guys wore tuxes. And, I'm pretty sure most I've been a guest at wore tuxes, too. But, I don't think I could tell the difference by just looking. But, do what works for your wedding!

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  • JCB
    Master September 2015
    JCB ·
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    Hubs and his GM wore suits but were chose to sort of look like tuxes. Black pants, jacket, shoes, tie (could have done a bow tie). No vest or cumberbund but they did have suspenders. Here is a photo of my dad and ring bearer


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  • Christine
    Master October 2015
    Christine ·
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    Ours isn't black tie (although it wouldn't be out of place, it is a formal wedding) but FH and our Dad's are wearing tuxes. The groomsmen are in suits though

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  • CareBear
    VIP March 2016
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    Every wedding I have ever been to the BP wore tuxes. They will be wearing tuxes is my wedding too!

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