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fmil hired a dj without asking?!

Audrey, on June 19, 2019 at 9:15 AM Posted in Planning 0 11

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So this morning she tells me not to worry about getting a DJ because it’s been taken care of... She hired one of those “friend of a friend with a good deal” type of people without reading any reviews or asking any questions at all. The part that is most annoying is that he’s only ever done Hispanic weddings and only speaks Spanish. While my guy’s family is Hispanic, my side is not. We agreed from the beginning to have a mix of both sides in our wedding planning, but I’m getting walked all over! We already booked a mariachi band which I am sooo excited for and we’re serving authentic food. We agreed that we wanted to find a DJ who would play a nice mix of songs for his family and mine but this guy won’t even announce us in English. And she told me she booked him like she did us a favor! I want to cry. I won’t be dancing at my wedding because I won’t know any of the songs.

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Latest activity by Meghan, on June 19, 2019 at 12:50 PM

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Isabella · on June 19, 2019 at 9:19 AM
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Just because he is hispanic and only speaks Spanish doesn't mean he can't play English songs. Can you have your FH talk to him about your dilemma and try to see if he can meet you in the middle?
Also, I think it depends on who is paying for the wedding. If FMIL is not paying, and it were me, I would just decline the DJ and proceed to find my own...
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Cyndy · on June 19, 2019 at 9:22 AM
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I think you need to talk to your FH and have him deal with his mom. I’m sure she thinks she’s doing you a favor but it’s not her place to do things like that without asking you. It’s not her day. If the guy can’t play music you like then your FH needs to politely decline the offer.
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Melissa · on June 19, 2019 at 9:24 AM
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This sounds awful. I would politely decline and let her know you appreciate the thought but that will not work for you or your guests and let her know to cancel ASAP so she can get a deposit back. If she refuses I would call the dj myself and cancel it.
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Furture Mrs. G · on June 19, 2019 at 9:56 AM
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Agreed with first post. Just because he is Spanish speaking and Hispanic does not mean in no way he will only play Spanish songs and that you won't be able to dance at your wedding. Spanish music you literally go with the beat. As long as you move along you should be fine. Our DJ is a country guy however, I am requesting that he play Tejano (Mexican music) for our families. While it is a great gesture if she WOULD HAVE ASKED. YOU cannot book something for someone without letting that person know who you are booking and its agreed between bride/groom and whomever is trying to do the booking. I would def. talk with your FH and tell him that it's a little much. And if she can help with the DJ you guys want.
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Erica · on June 19, 2019 at 10:11 AM
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If you don’t want to get into an argument or hurt her feelings by telling her she shouldn’t have overstepped her bounds, then I hate to say it but you can lie and say you already booked a di and put a deposit and signed a contract so she can cancel the guy she “booked”. I hope it works out
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Blag · on June 19, 2019 at 10:12 AM
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:-/. That’s so horrible I am so sorry she did that to you. You’re going to need to talk to her to explain why doing that is not okay and went against what you agreed on. Now you are left with her consequences. You will need to lay down the hard truth and explain as logically as possible to her. not sure if she already paid the person but needing to get a new DJ would be on her to get her money back. She created the problem not you. Also make sure to verify if he would only be able to do Spanish songs before you get upset. It will save a lot of time and energy that you may regret later.
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Amber · on June 19, 2019 at 12:06 PM
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He should be able to play songs that are "english". Usually you give your dj a list of music you want them to play at the reception.

I wish my family or/ fh family would go ahead and pay for a vendor for our wedding because handouts are great especially when its just u n ur fh paying for the whole thing.
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Crystal · on June 19, 2019 at 12:42 PM
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I bet the DJ could still play a mix of songs. I would be super frustrated that I wouldn't be able to communicate with him and upset that we FMIL didnt clear it with us first. I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

Something to consider: my DJ asked us about was guest requests. If you want your DJ to take requests it could be difficult if he only speaks Spanish.

My sister had a mariachi band for her wedding and they were awesome! Just thought I'd throw that out there too.
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Natt · on June 19, 2019 at 12:47 PM
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Maybe make up a song list you want him to play that way you dance at your wedding and maybe have your coordinator do the announcements? My coordinator said she is more than willing to step up if my DJ isn’t doing the announcements correctly or if they seems to shy for some reason.
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Mariangeli · on June 19, 2019 at 12:48 PM
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I would definitely say somthing, my mom has been buying so much stuff without asking me first and it has been the #1 most annoying thing about wedding planning. We have completely different tastes so i have not wanted or liked a single one of these things. She also keeps all the receipts so they aren't gifts, I am expected to pay her back. your FMIL may continue to do this just like my mother has so i would try to say somthing now!
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Meghan · on June 19, 2019 at 12:50 PM
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I don't have much to add in terms of the music aspect, but if you're worried about him not being able to make announcements in English you could always look into hiring your own emcee to help with anything that would need to be in English and Spanish.
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