So my FH and i decided on having a Halloween themed wedding. It's more my favorite theme than his but he thinks it would be a fun time and different, and he's been very supportive and helping me with ideas (still in the planning process). The one who is very unsupportive however is my FMIL... i have made it known that i would like to have a black wedding dress ; as has been my vision since i was 16. She is very disgusted by the idea of the black dress and our theme for our wedding, the few times i've tried to talk to her about the planning process she has turned up her nose. My FH and i both have tried to reassure it will all be in good taste. *Side note * she's also very religious (catholic), but my FH and myself are not. The rest of his and my family are at least tolerant or supportive of the ideas but not her. However my FH and i are paying for the wedding, and my mother has chipped in as well but not FMIL. i'm not sure how to make her more comfortable with the whole thing. Should i go for the white dress (the thought makes my stomach turn, sorry for sounding selfish there) to try and please her or do you have any other ideas that may help?