My fiance and I are getting married here at the end of the month. We have just about everything coordinated minus picking out entrance music for the party and any other loose ends I'm forgetting off the top of my head at the moment.
Right now, we have the final details about the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner. We have two flower girls. They're on the older side (at 6 and 7). When we first got engaged, we were thinking we weren't going to do flower girls since we didn't have any family that were 3-4 years old to play the part. My mother, however, managed to convince me that they were a necessary part of a wedding and so here we are. I asked the daughters of my mom's friends to fill in for the roles.
I reached out to my mother regarding the rehearsal to let her know who all was coming, where it would be, etc. I told her, especially since it's my future MIL planning it, that we would only like for one parent to chaperone each flower girl for the rehearsal. The entire family, of course, is invited to the actual ceremony in reception. My mother was appalled we weren't inviting both parents plus one of the flower girl's brothers. Since then, she's been calling me rude, I have no social etiquette, "wouldn't be surprised if they don't come to the wedding at all", "you're insane", "you're going to embarrass us to our friends", etc.
I have yet to actually get up the nerve to tell the flower girls' parents the decision on this. My mother has made it a point to let me know that this will end in catastrophe if I don't invite both parents to the rehearsal. So, I'm curious. Am I actually being rude here?
