Flower Girl vs Junior Bridesmaid?

Some would say 8-10 is too old but if you don't already have a flower girl and you think the girl will be okay with being a flower girl then I don't see why not! I guess it also depends on her maturity level. Some 10 year olds act very mature and wouldn't want to be a flower girl, while others wouldn't mind and would love to!

I would say 10 and under are good for flower girls and anything over 10 and under 18 is good for a junior bridesmaid.
I haven’t been to many weddings that had junior bridesmaids though. 🤷🏼‍♀️

My to Junior Bridesmaids will be 9 (daughter and niece) but I matched them up with their brothers as groomsmen/ushers that are 13 and 12 and my flower girl (niece) will be 4 and her brother will be 6. I think it all depends on you and what you want. Like others have said, maturity plays a big part as well.

We have a similar situation. My fiance's niece will be 10 (we've pushed our wedding back, she was going to be 9), and I really felt that was too old to be a flower girl. His mom and sister hinted toward wanting her to be a flower girl because she hasn't been one, or been in a wedding, but I just think she's going to be too old. There will be other much younger girls at the wedding - friends' kids and my cousin's daughter, whom we've asked to be in the wedding as flower girls. I asked his niece to be a junior bridesmaid and I'm happy I did because of the pushback to our wedding date. Now that she'll be 10, I think it makes even more sense for her to be a bridesmaid. She will still get a special dress and flowers. I think there are many ways to still make her feel special!

The average age for a flower girl is between 4 and 8 years old and for ring bearers is between 4 and 10 years old. I would personally make her a jr bridesmaid but in my situation, we're not even having any flower girls or ring bearers. At least we don't plan on it but we'll see what happens. It's not a super huge age difference so it's really up to you. If you're questioning it and don't really mind if they are either or, maybe ask them what they would prefer to be.

View Quoted Comment This is probably what I would go with as well. I ended up choosing not to have a flower girl or ring bearer because the only ones I could choose from either have some behavior/maturity issues or are just prone to hyper-sensitivity, being overwhelmed and having outbursts and I just couldn’t handle that happening during my ceremony.
One of my dearest younger cousins I asked to be a bridesmaid when I realized she was turning 18 this year and thus shouldn’t be considered a junior bridesmaid.

My fiance has 1 niece who is 9, will be 10 at the wedding. I also was considering one or the other so she could be included. We already had a flower girl planned who will be 4 at the wedding. His niece is very tall and our flower girl is tiny so we thought it may look odd if they both did it. BUT we ultimately asked his niece what she would prefer. We all agreed and she was happy as a Jr. BM. We will have her walk with her pawpaw (fiance's dad is a GM) and have a similar dress as the girls. I think it will be adorable!

I decided to make my niece a junior bridesmaid as she was going to be 9 and now will be 10 when we eventually get married. She seemed to old to be a flower girl and I think she will feel more included if her title is similar to her mom's, my sister. Her dress will be similar to the other bridesmaid's, but age appropriate. We will have her get ready with the rest of the girls and get her hair done. My nephew will be 6 by the time of the wedding (was going to be 5) and I decided to call him a junior groomsman because I thought it was a cute title to match his sister and I am not a fan of the ring bearer title anyway. He will wear a little suit to match the groomsmen. Both kids are super excited.

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Ya I don't think I have actually been to any weddings with junior bridesmaids, so I think I'm just a little confused as to their role and etc.

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I do like that idea if they are matched up, maybe that is something we will have to consider. Thank You!

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Yes I hadn't thought to ask her what she would prefer, but I think that may be what I end up doing. I honestly would prefer to have a flower girl than a junior bridesmaid, however I'd prefer that she be comfortable and happy with her role.

Thank you so much for everyone's input, I think we will end up asking her to be a part of our wedding, though leave it up to her which role she prefers to fill! I really like that idea! Also what are typical roles of junior bridesmaids? I have heard of people having them, though have never been to a wedding with them!

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No problem. If she does choose jr bridesmaid, maybe there's someone else you could consider being the flower girl?? Also you check HERE to see what you would like her to help you with.

When I was nine, I was the junior bridesmaid in my aunt’s wedding. It made me feel so grown up and special. Being a flower girl is generally for younger and easily could make an older child feel like they were being treated like a little kid.


Junior bridesmaids do everything the bridesmaids do except pay for stuff or attend the bachelorette party. Traditionally, they wear similar dresses to the bridesmaids (same color, fabric, and length but usually more age appropriate), get ready with the bridal party, have the option to get their hair done, attend the shower (and can help with some of the shower stuff like passing gifts to you, passing out game stuff to guests, etc), walk down the aisle, have a bouquet if you do them, etc.

She's turning into jr bridesmaid age so go with that. She'll feel so grown up with the big girls. A flower girl is not a necessity. Two ring bearers wearing little now ties, now that's cuteness! One could carry the pillow and the other a cute sign saying
HERE SHE COMES JUST FOR YOU!

I would do a flower girl. We're doing two flower girls, aged 8 and 3 (will be almost 4), and 3 jr. BMs at 17, 16, and 14.

My niece will be 14-15 at the time and she will be my flower girl along with her sister who will be around 6. My goal is to make it as grown up for
her as it can be. She will be in a beautiful dress and she will look like the princess she is. I don’t think she matters as long as you make it age appropriate for them

My daughter will be 10 at our wedding and I’m having her and niece both as flower girls. I think it’s just what you prefer. My little sister is 16 and is my jr. Bridesmaid.

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Thank you so much! Yes, I think I would prefer to have her as a flower girl, so will probably have her do that.

My daughter who is 11 is going to be a JBM. I think it depends on the maturity of the girl honestly.