Flower Girl Questions

A 12 year old flower girl is fine. No one will care.

They can wear whatever color you want. I’ve noticed more flower girls in pale pinks recently than whites.

The ring bearer doesn’t have to be a boy. Whoever carries the rings is the ring bearer. If you want one of your nieces to hold the rings and one to toss flowers, make one the flower girl and one the ring bearer. You could also just skip the ring bearer. Neither role is a necessity.

There’s no such thing as too old unless the girl in question feels like she is.
They can wear whatever colors you like.
Typically a child isn’t actually entrusted to carry the rings— and ring bearer is really just a title , while the best man or other trusted responsible adult holds the rings. But, anyone you like and trust can carry the rings and a formally titled ring bearer isn’t necessary. We didn’t have one at all and it was fine. The best man held the rings until that part of the ceremony.
This is a place that you really can do whatever you like, just make sure the kids are comfortable with their roles

It’s absolutely acceptable for one to carry the rings. There is zero reason why the ring bearer has to be male. There also isn’t a cut-off age for a flower girl. One of ours will be 9, which I’ve heard is too old, but she wants to have the same role as her sisters and I don’t agree with that assessment. As long as the kids are comfortable with their roles, there’s no issue and if they aren’t you still don’t have to make her a junior BM. She could be in charge of the guest book or do a reading instead, or sit the wedding out if she’d prefer. You can put them in any color you want, it’s your wedding!

At 5' tall myself, I get the semi-weirdness of having a flower girl who's adult height, even if she's young. I think as long as you're ok with it, it's totally fine to have her as a flower girl/ring bearer. I also prefer having those roles wear wedding colors instead of white, so I think your color plan sounds perfect to me.

Ok first answer is I do thing the 12 year old seems a little old but at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter. It’s your choice, your day!

My flower girls are wearing blush to compliment my other girls wearing wine.

Last I have no ring bearer and am not worried about it. I’m just having my MOH and FH’s BM hold our rings. I may have one flower girl do petals and one carry a cute sign

Do what you want. My eight year old doesn't want to be a flower girl. She said she's too old for that. She wants to be the ring bearer.

Eta I won't be having a flower girl at all

I think having having the 12 yr old carry the rings and the 7 yr old throw the petals would be fine, and for dresses I'm not doing white. My main color is wine so this is what my flower girl will be wearing. She will be standing next to my brother who is a bridesmen so it won't clash with my bridesmaids.

I was a flower girl when I was 12 and loved being " center of attention." She can wear whatever color! I think that is a great idea that one throws petals and the other holds the rings.

My first question is do you think 12 is too old to be a flower girl?

If it were me, I'd probably have both girls as jr. bridesmaids. BUT if you don't have anyone else to be the flower girl, and you want flower girls...then I don't see why it'd be an issue.

My second question is do flower girls have to wear white?

No, they can wear whatever color you want them to wear. My girls wore like a dark ivory. And although it's the "norm" for flower girls to wear white, I have seen other weddings where they wore other colors. That is totally a personal preference choice.

Lastly, we don't have a young boy to be a ring bearer and since we have two flower girls, would it be acceptable for one to throw petals and one to hold the rings?

Yes, that is acceptable. Alternatively you can have them both throw flowers and the best man hold the ring. That is what we did. We didn't have ring bearers. Our two youngest daughters were the flower girls. One had a basket of flowers, and one carried a sign. They both threw flowers from the basket though, because they wanted to. Our best man held the rings.

My fiance's nice is going to be our flower girl, she will be 12 in October, and when we asked her to be our flower girl, she was very excited about it, and even mentioned that she always wanted to be one. If your niece is happy about it and haven't complained about it I would keep her as a flower girl.

A 12 y/o flower girl is totally fine. I went to a wedding where the FG was the bride's "little" from their sorority days lol.

They can wear whatever you want. I've seen white, patterned dresses, same color family as the bridal party, etc.

Having the 12 y/o carry the rings, and maybe even a small bouquet, would be fine and then have the younger one toss petals.

First you have to remember that this is your wedding. As long as your fiance is on board, do what you want lol I believe that white is for the bride only. My flower girl will be wearing a dress that goes with my color scheme. If you have two girls that are not the same age/height, you can have the older one carry the rings.

My 11 year old niece is a junior bridesmaid. So as long as the 12 year old is comfortable being a flower girl I think it’s fine, but she may feel like that’s something for younger kids. They can wear whatever color. Doesn’t have to be white. And you can have one of the girls be the ring bearer. It doesn’t have to be a boy. That’s the great thing about weddings. You can personalize them so they fit your vision 🙂

I will have a 10 year old bridesmaid that is 5' 0", so I think its fine. She is also tall for her age, so I was a little worried about it. After seeing her as a junior bridesmaid in FH's brother's wedding, I definitely thought she was not mature enough to be part of the bridesmaids.

I was worried my niece and his niece were too old to be my flower girls but who cares, I think those ages are still fine. my is 8 and 11. they still look like little girls and maybe their outfit can be less puffy than a little girls one

My daughter will be 11 at our wedding and she is going to be a Jr. Bridesmaid and is wearing a complimentary color to our wedding party. My daughter is also very mature and made it clear she had no interest in being a flower girl but wanted a more mature role. Your nieces may want to be part of the conversation, maybe offer the younger one flower girl and the older one a Jr. Bridesmaid.

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^^^ exactly

My flower girls were 3 sisters and they were 7, 9, and 11. The 11 year old really loved being a flower girl and she was nearly as tall as me (I'm 5'5)! There's really no right age unless the person in question doesn't want to do it. Also, anyone can be the ring bearer.