Flower Girl Etiquette

I think as long as you have an open conversation about budget with the parents, it’s ok for you to choose. If you’re choosing an expensive dress outside of their price range, you should pay.

From what I've read, the etiquette is kind of blurred here. We're paying for attire for anyone under 18 in our wedding, which happens to be our two nieces. I don't think it's out of line to ask the parents either. If it's in your budget, I would at least offer to pay.

I think the B&G should pay for any underage bridal party member's attire. Especially if their parents are in the wedding too, so they aren't having to buy multiple outfits.

I wasn't looking for a specific style for my FG, so I told her mom (another bridesmaids) that whatever all white dress she could find works for me. In return, I was going to buy her an accessory and other fun times to keep her entertained during the wedding. It all worked out because she found a dress for only $10 at Ross!

If you're looking for a specific style, then yes, I would suggest buying the dress for your flower girl.

I think it’s up to you in this situation. I would find a few that you like that they can get at a local store and have them choose from that. I wanted to buy my nephew’s suit yesterday but my sister wouldn’t let me, and it was only $22. So I think your best bet is to openly discuss it with them.

I don't think there's anything written in stone here. Rules for Bridesmaids are much more clear in the US. If I were the parent of the flower girl I would expect to be the one to buy the dress, but I'd just talk to the parents and see if you can agree to something together.

That's certainly not a dumb question at all!

I think this one is completely up to you. We are paying for FG dresses just to make it easier and then I know they will be at the wedding and not forgotten at home. But I think it just depends on the situation for you. My cousin's daughter is one of our FG's and I know my cousin doesn't have a lot of extra money; so I want to pay for it. Because of this my FH has volunteered to pay for his 2 nieces FG dresses too.

I let the mom pick among 5 dresses then bought the dress!

I’m having 2x flower girls in the wedding. My cousin (1x of the flower girls mom) picked out the dress. The dress was reasonable ($40) and my cousin picked out a sash that matches mine ($35) - for the headband I gave her money & she picked out 2x that matches at Claire’s (one for each FG). I added the dress & sash to my David’s bridal account so my FSIL can pick it out for her daughter.
I’m also having one junior groomsmen, also my cousin kid. We are paying for that tux (well rather, FH got a free tux w/ his party, but I didn’t feel right getting a free tux, when my cousin was buying her dress, her daughter’s dress & her sons tux rental) so we paid for his tux & gave him the free tux (my FH picked a very expensive tux option).

My daughter was a flower girl 5 times and I paid for all of her dresses. I never thought anything of it just assumed it was part of her gig lol..

My niece was my flower girl. My parents took care of her dress. She just wore her Easter shoes so it all worked out. Be prepared to pay but leave it to her parents to decide. They might opt to do it on their own.

This makes me feel so much better that there's not a precedent I was missing! We talked last night and are going to send some options for them to choose from/get feedback, and offer to pay for the dress. Thanks ladies!