Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

VIP September 2016

Flower girl Drama?

Patricia, on July 28, 2015 at 4:51 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

Saved

Flag
Hide content

My MOH has a young daughter (4 years old). She asked me if I had anyone I mind to be a flower girl. I felt like I was put on the spot so being the people pleaser I am I said" I'm thinking your daughter but I'm not sure." Now my fiancé got into a fight about how she's not family so we should have his cousin do it. FYI his cousin is 21... nonsense, I hate fighting so now I think I should have one of my young family members do it but now I don't know what to say. At this point she is under the impression her daughter is my flower girl. I don't want to hurt my friends feelings or her daughters but I feel like it would stop the bickering and the stress of it. I shouldn't have said anything in the first place

Flag
Hide content

12 Comments

Latest activity by Ms2Mrs, on July 28, 2015 at 9:36 PM

VIP July 2015
sdgher · on July 28, 2015 at 4:53 PM
Flag

Hide content
Her daughter is 4 - she won't know the difference, her feelings won't be hurt. a 21 year old is absurd. Pick who you guys want it to be and be done.
- Reply
Master May 2013
Dreamer · on July 28, 2015 at 5:05 PM
Flag

Hide content
Campaigning for their kid/grandkid, etc. to be a flower girl seems to be an all too common problem. Maybe you'll decide that you are not going to have any child attendants? Problem solved!
- Reply
Dedicated September 2015
FutureMrs9415 · on July 28, 2015 at 5:09 PM
Flag

Hide content
You have over a year, I would just avoid the question for a while and hopefully you can figure out what you want to do in the next few months.
- Reply
Rachel DellaPorte · on July 28, 2015 at 5:10 PM
Flag

Hide content
You could always skip the flower girl. They're not a requirement.
- Reply
Super September 2015
Brittany · on July 28, 2015 at 5:12 PM
Flag

Hide content
I had people doing the same to me, so we cut flower girl and ring bearers. Problem solved!
- Reply
Super October 2015
MrsTex · on July 28, 2015 at 5:15 PM
Flag

Hide content
A 21 year old flower girl? lol. If anything you can just add them both, have the older cousin escort the little girl down the aisle
- Reply
Master October 2015
Mrs. Hunnibear · on July 28, 2015 at 5:16 PM
Flag

Hide content
I would just skip it.
- Reply
Master November 2015
Princess Consuela · on July 28, 2015 at 5:23 PM
Flag

Hide content
We're not having a flower girl or ring bearer to avoid problems like this. And a 21 year old flower girl? Hell to the no.
- Reply
Master September 2015
Reggie · on July 28, 2015 at 5:36 PM
Flag

Hide content
You could always skip it altogether, or have more than one. If say there are 3 children total in the family it wouldn't be unheard of to have 3 flowergirls or come up with other jobs for the other children.

But honestly a 21 year old flowers girl is a little silly IMO. I mean I've seen grandmas as flowergirls and if you wanted it I would say go for it, but to do it just because she's family and the other one isn't is weird.
- Reply
VIP April 2016
Wedding Belles · on July 28, 2015 at 8:14 PM
Flag

Hide content
We're not doing flower girls or ring bearers either. Literally the same thing happened to us, though! "We're not having flower girls." "WHAT? What do you mean? Here are your flower girls right here!" "Uhhhh, not so much." #sorrynotsorry People are hilarious!
- Reply
Master March 2015
Susan · on July 28, 2015 at 8:42 PM
Flag

Hide content
People put on the crazy hats when wedding planning comes. 21 is about 13 years too OLD to be a FG, and your friend is obnoxious for asking. Consider the kid, ixnay the adult. FH's niece who is 10 begged to be our FG, I had my friends kid (4) in mind, promoted 10 year old to JBM and had to persuade her to wear a dress. Damn kid wanted to wear a tuxedo and stand with the guys......... uh no.
- Reply

Super September 2016
Ms2Mrs · on July 28, 2015 at 9:36 PM
Flag

Hide content
I attended many weddings that have more than one flowergirl, it's totally fine to have her and a family member.
- Reply