Flower girl and Ring Bearer - drama?

I can see how that could cause a lot of hurt feelings. I guess it depends on the personalities of the children and the parents. I can’t imagine asking one of my nieces to be a flower girl and excluding her twin.

It's your choice but I could seethe family drama either way. Can you have two flower girls, one ring bearer, and the other boy carry the sign that says the bride is coming or he can be ring bearer security???

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I can see your family's point. Could you double up on flower girls and ring bearers? We're having 2 ring bearers because we couldn't decided between brothers.

I totally get where your family is coming from, I've picked my soon to be twin nephews as my ring bearers. Plus double sets of twins who would pass that cute opportunity?!

Thanks everyone for the feedback! FH and I really only want one flower girl and one ring bearer, we have a small WP as is and I don’t see a reason to have 2 of each, especially since our FG isn’t allowed to toss flowers and will just be holding a posy bouquet. Also, I’m not sure that the parents would want to have to get outfits for both children, like I don’t want it to be a financial burden

View Quoted Comment I like the ring security idea, unfortunately FH hates it 😞 we also have our ring box already

As a twin myself, I would have been extremely hurt if someone asked my twin and not me. It may not your intention, but it looks like you are picking a favorite, which will 100% cause hurt feelings, especially between the twins.

View Quoted Comment Definitely not picking favorites! Just trying to include cousins from different families within my family. I think I am going to do it this way because this was done by a lot of my cousins, not always with twins, but in general siblings weren’t FG and RB together

There’s a big difference between including one sibling and not the other (usually because of an age/ability difference) and including only one in a set of twins. I’m all for siblings not always having to participate in the same things because their ages and development is different, but twins almost always get the same opportunities at the same times because they’re the same age. You can do it this way if you want, but if they were my children, I’d be wary of allowing one to participate and not having the other as that could cause incredibly hurt feelings in the excluded twin.

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Of course! It is your day so do what you feel is right! I would maybe have something special for the other children who aren't in the BP to do, or take those ones out for a special lunch since they don't get to do the special job the day of!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I think I’ve found something for the siblings to do along with other children at the wedding