First rsvp decline & this one stings

I’m so sorry! it can hurt so bad sometimes when you get unexpected RSVPS. just try to remember all the people who are able to make it and support you in your love and in your new union! i know it can be difficult, i’ve had one super rude RSVP but you have to move past it and enjoy this process and your day!!! whoever is there i’ll enjoy it and make it the best day!!!

also were date twins!

I'm sorry to hear this. It's always so difficult when someone we really want to be there is not coming for one reason or another.

I’m so sorry. I know how rough that is. I was really sad when we got our first decline. I actually took it a bit personally. In the end, way more people accepted and I felt good about that.

I'm so sorry!! I'm actually worried about this myself. I have one aunt left on my dad's side of the family; everyone else has passed. I've already reached out to her to confirm she is coming because I would be devastated if she couldn't make it. So, I understand how you must be feeling.

Maybe you and FH could plan to go visit Uncle Jack and Aunt Bev, either before, or after the wedding, just to catch up and see them, since they won't be able to make it. I bet Uncle Jack would love that, especially if he's not well enough to go to your wedding!

I am so sorry, that sucks. I’m having déjà vu, a similar situation happened to me. My Dad died in 2015 and he had only one brother, He was close to him and talked to him every day. While Dad was alive, he used to come to our family events, our graduations, etc.

When I became engaged I reached out to him and asked for the best address to send his invitation so that he got it. He responded “No, Thank you”
I was crushed.

Another crushing blow, my mom has many brothers and sisters. I invited them all along with my cousins. They all declined though two did get us a gift.

Their loss.

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It's a great date! I picked it because it would have been my late grandmother's 100th birthday. She helped raise me after my mom died.

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I can relate....my parents both passed away when I was in high school, and most of our family seemed to forget my brother and I were still living...

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I want to see them, but they make excuses..maybe eventually. They've never met Rob

I'm sorry to hear this... almost none of my aunts/uncles are coming, so I can understand when you say it stings. My uncles widow is coming and my other uncles wife (they are separated) is coming. That's it. I have 3 living uncles, and 3 living aunts and none of them are coming (only 2 really couldnt make it, the rest is preference).

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I didn't invite all of my family either. Many of them I don't have addresses for. My late father's stepsister, though to them there wasn't step, they were siblings, she loves me more than anything and she and her husband are coming. They are my favorite Aunt and Uncle anyway.

So sorry to hear this! I'm really worried that none of my dad's side will make it because of the travel required, so I empathize a bit. I hope the rest of your family is excited enough for you to make the day great, even if your Aunt and Uncle can't be there.

I know the feeling. My father passed away and my only relative from my fathers side is in Barbados. I am an only child. Reach out to him and tell him you love him. Hearing his voice will make you smile.

I'm so sorry! I understand. Neither of my mom's brothers came to our wedding. I don't have a relationship with them (they make no effort) but my mom does and it really hurt her. My cousin on that side that I used to be super close with didn't come either. We had several "no"s that really hurt but on the day of, we didn't think about a single one of them.