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First Look?

Stephanie, on August 21, 2019 at 9:06 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 86
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Just curious what everyone thinks about a "First Look". Are you all seeing your FH for a first look or waiting for him to see you coming down the aisle? I've always been one to want to wait for him to see me coming down the aisle for that reaction but it seems a lot of couples do a "First Look" now. What are your opinions? Pros and Cons? Im torn.

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Latest activity by Melle, on August 27, 2019 at 2:35 PM
  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
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    My fiancé feels strongly about waiting for the aisle. Which I think is super sweet.
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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
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    We're 100% doing a first look. I like the idea of having a more private moment, and I also want to be able to knock out all the photos before the ceremony. I want to be able to actually attend our cocktail hour, and as a guest it can sometimes feel like a lot of downtime if the wedding party and families disappear for an hour or more

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2020
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    I 100% agree with what you're saying. That's why I'm torn. I just wanted that "wow" reaction when he first sees me coming down the aisle. But I may just have to put that aside for the sake of pictures and our cocktail hour. You're 100% right! Thanks!
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  • H
    Super September 2019
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    I love the first look pictures, but I've always wanted me walking the isle to be the first time my FH saw me.
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  • Stephanie
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    That's how I feel too!
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated February 2020
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    We made our decision purely for logistical reasons. Our ceremony isn’t until 6 pm so we are doing the first look so we can get as many pictures before the ceremony as possible.
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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2020
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    Our ceremony is 1130am so we have a real early morning from the start! But I think I'll see if we can fit in first look pics so we can enjoy our cocktail hour. Thank you!
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  • Brianna N
    Super October 2019
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    My FH is big on waiting to see me until I walk down the aisle, and I agree. That is such a special moment! I totally understand the logistics of the first look, and it definitely makes sense, but for us we would rather wait! I think it is super sweet and I don't want to take away from that.

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2020
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    That's exactly how I feel too! Im so torn! Lol!!
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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
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    We are definitely doing a first look. We aren't an overly traditional couple anyway and while I thought I wanted that big moment on the aisle, I prefer the idea of making that moment between us and saving time after the wedding so we can enjoy our guests.

    Pros: More time at the reception with friends and family. Intimate moment between us before the ceremony begins. Less time taking pictures at one time makes it feel less arduous.

    Cons: Have to be ready earlier.

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  • Ivy ORP
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    We talked about this and she said there is no way she won't have the wow moment because it will be the music, the guests, the moment I walk to her before we say our vows. Just a thought.

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2020
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    Thank you!
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
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    We did a first look. I’m so glad we did and I don’t think there are any cons to it. I know a lot of people say it makes walking down the aisle less special but that wasn’t our experience at all and we both bawled as I walked down the aisle. I’m so glad we got to greet guests during cocktail hour and stay seated during all of dinner.
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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2020
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    Thank you! I think Ill do the first look!
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  • Eryn
    Just Said Yes June 2020
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    I personally don’t like the “First look”. I prefer to see him as I walk down the aisle and vice versa. I don’t even want to know what tux he picked out before. It takes away from the magic in my opinion.
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  • Sara
    Expert February 2020
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    We arent doing a first look..but we also aren't having a photographer at all. I want the first time we see each other to be at the ceremony.
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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2020
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    Thank you for your help!
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  • Sara
    Expert February 2020
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    This is how I feel about it too.
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  • Caytlyn
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    We are doing a first look. I had the same concern, that it would make walking down the aisle less special. It took me a while to realize that the moment isn’t special because it’s the first time your FS is seeing you in a pretty dress with your hair and makeup done up. It’s special because they’re seeing their soon to be wife walking down the aisle to them. It’s the whole experience. I don’t think there’s much that can take away from that.
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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2020
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    Agreed! Thank you!
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