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First look or no?

Bolt2020, on June 8, 2019 at 2:19 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 26
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Are you guys doing first looks or have you if your wedding has already happened? What are your thoughts on a first look? I am really conflicted... Thank you!


Latest activity by Katharine, on August 10, 2020 at 4:59 PM
  • latasha
    VIP September 2019
    latasha ·
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    My FH said he doesn’t want to see me until I walk down the aisle so we won’t be doing a first look. I think it’s a personal choice. I’ve heard from brides who did a first look that it didn’t take away from their walk down the aisle but for me and FH we feel it would take away that special moment for us so we’d rather wait.
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  • Alycia
    Super July 2021
    Alycia ·
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    Ask your fiance'. Far fewer men seem to like first looks than women do. If you both want it, do what makes you happy.

    My fiance' definitely doesn't want to see me as his bride before I walk down the aisle. However, we give each other a lot of love and support. We are going to have a secret meeting for 10 minutes of hugs and kisses before h/m starts. We'll sneak away from our parties, meet somewhere, then go back to our parties to start getting ready.

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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    My fiancé feels strongly about no first look so I respect that
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly Online ·
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    We did a first look! So glad we did as we were able to be in our own cocktail hour and greet everyone and stay seated during dinner. Didn’t take a single thing away from walking down the aisle or make it less special. We both bawled as I walked down. The only thing it did was help my nerves some.
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  • C
    Dedicated March 2021
    Christina ·
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    We both didn’t want to do a first look then we hired our photographer. He suggested the first look so we could enjoy our cocktail hour and talking to our guests, especially the out of state ones and we are paying for the cocktail hour and didn’t want to miss it. So here we are doing a first look.
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  • Julia T
    Master August 2015
    Julia T ·
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    I did first look. I like having that special moment with my husband in private.
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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I am going to do a first look. I don't really mind that it's not before the ceremony. I wanted to take photos before hand anyway and not feel rushed
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I considered doing a first look, but FH didn't want one! He wants to be surprised seeing me walk down the aisle!

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  • Sarah
    Expert September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    We're going to be doing a first look. At first FH didn't want to do one, wanting to wait until I walked down the aisle. But then we discussed the pros and cons of both options and decided that for us a first look was the better option. We both can get emotional at times and we'd rather share a private first look between the two of us then in front of all of our guest and me be a balling mess.
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  • Megan
    VIP January 2019
    Megan ·
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    We didn’t do one and have zero regrets.
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  • Erica
    Dedicated March 2020
    Erica ·
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    At first I wanted to be totally traditional and not do first looks. However, for us it appears to be a better choice. We want certain shots that are close to our ceremony/reception spot so first looks would be ideal. Not to mention, we want to give ourselves the best chance to enjoy the special day we’ve work so hard to design and pay for. So first looks allows the opportunity for us to greet guest during cocktail hour and enjoy friends and family and really have time to enjoy more of the reception than if we took time to do pictures throughout
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  • Littlebride
    Dedicated January 2020
    Littlebride ·
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    Doing one!! Because I know waiting for him to see me untill I'm walking down the isle will only add more anxiety and nerves and I dont want that.
    We're doing a first look so that nerves can be calmed down before going in front of everyone to see us get married. Plus I can kiss and hug him during the first look and if we wait to walk down the isle, all I'll be able to do is hold his hands until it's time for the kiss. Lol.
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  • Jessica
    Expert July 2022
    Jessica ·
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    No first look with my FH for me but I am going to do one with my dad. I'm an only child and it would mean me alot to give him the surprise as much as my FH.
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I would say that you and your fiance should talk it over and decide together. At first we didn’t want to do it but then when we realized we wouldn’t have time to join the cocktail hour because of all the pictures we decided we would do it. It was still amazing!!! It didn’t take away anything from the actually ceremony and honestly it gave us those few minutes to enjoy the first look together without everyone else around. With that said it’s a personal choice and one you should make together and there is no wrong answer. 😊. Good luck!
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    Not for me. Not a fan, but i'd never tell another bride what to do. My fiancee wants his first time seeing me when i'm coming up the aisle to him

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  • marjifarah
    Dedicated September 2020
    marjifarah ·
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    We are doing a first look and reading our vows to each other before we walk down the aisle together.
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  • Kelsey
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Absolutely!! From a practical perspective, doing a first look is most likely going to allow you a lot more time and flexibility for pictures, and also if you are doing a cocktail hour and want to actually attend that, a first look can be a great idea. All of our guests will be from out of town/out of state, so we really want to spend as much time as we can with our guests.

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  • Savitri
    Beginner September 2020
    Savitri ·
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    No first look for us. Both prefer to wait for when I walk down the isle
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  • Amanda
    Dedicated August 2019
    Amanda ·
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    No first look. He’ll see me coming down the aisle! Our photographer is aware so she’ll be sure to snap a pic of his reaction! Can’t wait!
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  • W
    Beginner July 2019
    Wendy ·
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    We are doing a first look for a couple of reasons. For us, it's a really intimate moment that we don't want to have in front of people. Also, we'd like to spend some time with our guests at the cocktail hour.

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